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Try This Unique Gratitude Exercise](https://valorieburton.com/find-yourself-taking-things-for-granted-try-this-unique-gratitude-exercise/) - There is no way you haven't heard this from someone before... - [Upward Social Comparison](https://valorieburton.com/upward-social-comparison/) - There is no way you haven't heard this from someone before... - [Navigating Success: The 5 Crucial Questions to Ask a Mentor](https://valorieburton.com/navigating-success-the-5-crucial-questions-to-ask-a-mentor/) - There is no way you haven't heard this from someone before... - [Episode 28 - What If You Could Break Free from 'What Ifs'?](https://valorieburton.com/episode-28/) - There is no way you haven't heard this from someone before... - [Episode 27: Breaking Barriers: Conquer Your Core Fear](https://valorieburton.com/episode-27-breaking-barriers-conquer-your-core-fear/) - There is no way you haven't heard this from someone before... - [Episode 26: Overcome Any Obstacle With These 4 Powerful Questions](https://valorieburton.com/episode-26-overcome-any-obstacle-with-these-4-powerful-questions/) - There is no way you haven't heard this from someone before... - [Episode 13: A 3-Step Process to Increase Your Confidence Right Now](https://valorieburton.com/episode-13-a-3-step-process-to-increase-your-confidence-right-now-2/) - Episode #13A 3-Step Process to Increase Your Confidence Right NowWhy is it that women will only apply for a job when they meet ALL of the requirements, whereas men will apply for jobs when they often only meet half? There is a lot of research on how women underestimate their abilities and speak with less - [Episode 16: Aligning Your Deeper Purpose: Real Life Coaching Session](https://valorieburton.com/episode-16-aligning-your-deeper-purpose-real-life-coaching-session/) - Episode #16Aligning Your Deeper Purpose: Real Life Coaching SessionHave you ever taken the next step because it was offered? Not because it was your dream job but because it was an easy opportunity that just came along. And then perhaps, after a while, deep down, you began to wonder: is there something more? Is there - [Episode 1: The 7 Key Decisions that Successful Women Make](https://valorieburton.com/the-7-key-decisions-that-successful-women-make/) - Episode #1The 7 Key Decisions that Successful Women MakeWhat distinguishes the most successful women: those who achieve their vision, are rooted in their purpose, conquer their goals that might seem really difficult, and tap into their gifts and the things that are really important to them? What distinguishes that woman from a similar one who - [Episode 25: Crucial Choices: 5 Key Signs to Keep Going or Quit](https://valorieburton.com/episode-25-crucial-choices-5-key-signs-to-keep-going-or-quit/) - There is no way you haven't heard this from someone before... - [Episode 24: Five Ways Anticipation Breaks Your Rut](https://valorieburton.com/episode-24-five-ways-anticipation-breaks-your-rut/) - Episode #24Five Ways Anticipation Breaks Your RutIf you’re in a rut and are looking for a way out, check out Happy Women Live Better – https://a.co/d/iolzNgR In the book, Valorie references 13 research-based happiness triggers that build positive emotion. But in this episode, she dives deep into just one: Anticipation. It’s so easy to get - [Episode 23: Is FOMO Driving You to Analysis Paralysis?](https://valorieburton.com/episode-23-is-fomo-driving-you-to-analysis-paralysis/) - Episode #23Is FOMO Driving You to Analysis Paralysis?**For extra tips on stopping your Analysis Paralysis visit https://valorieburton.com/podcast** The curse of having too many good ideas or options… Is there any chance you can actually accomplish them all? And if you can’t, how do you choose which one(s) to start with, knowing that it might mean - [Episode 22: Boring Vision? Here’s How to Become Your Best Possible Future Self](https://valorieburton.com/episode-22-boring-vision-heres-how-to-become-your-best-possible-future-self/) - Episode #22Boring Vision? Here’s How to Become Your Best Possible Future Self****For help with your vision, visit http://valorieburton.com/vision – this is a FREE resource usually reserved for clients only.**** Things rarely just fall into place. Sometimes, we look at our lives and everything we’ve accomplished or haven’t, and we wonder, “Are things supposed to be - [Episode 21: Lacking Motivation? Don’t Let Your Feelings Dictate Your Actions](https://valorieburton.com/episode-21-lacking-motivation-dont-let-your-feelings-dictate-your-actions/) - Episode #21Lacking Motivation? Don’t Let Your Feelings Dictate Your ActionsMotivation is like the wind. It comes and it goes. Chances are it’s going more than it’s coming. As much as you wish that you could feel productive, and inspired to take action all the time (or even half of the time), there’s just a missing - [Episode 20: Free Yourself From Negativity and Drama in 4 Simple Steps](https://valorieburton.com/episode-20-free-yourself-from-negativity-and-drama-in-4-simple-steps/) - Episode #20Free Yourself From Negativity and Drama in 4 Simple StepsMy Christian campgoers will get this. Stick with me for a second… Have you ever gone to a camp, been pumped up by the Holy Spirit, felt truly transformed, enlightened, and ready to change the world? But then you get back home, your sister says - [Episode 19: The Power of Play - Interview with Elaine O'Brien](https://valorieburton.com/episode-19-the-power-of-play-interview-with-elaine-obrien/) - Episode #19 The Power of Play – Interview with Elaine O’BrienTurns out “Work Hard, Play Hard” may be way more scientifically sound than any of us thought. As a responsible adult, chances are your struggle is likely in the playing part. You’ve got all caught up with work, chores, maybe raising kids, and the seriousness of - [Episode 18: How to Practice Gratitude in Challenging Situations](https://valorieburton.com/episode-18-how-to-practice-gratitude-in-challenging-situations/) - Episode #18How to Practice Gratitude in Challenging SituationsTHANK YOU… Your commitment to personal growth and making a positive impact is truly commendable, and we’re excited to explore a topic that can enrich your journey. Today, we’re delving into the heart of gratitude. It’s a practice that might seem straightforward, but as we navigate life’s challenges, - [Episode 2: 5 Things Your Procrastination Is Telling You - And What You Can Do About It](https://valorieburton.com/episode-2-5-things-your-procrastination-is-telling-you-and-what-you-can-do-about-it/) - Episode #25 Things Your Procrastination Is Telling You – And What You Can Do About ItProcrastination… what is that all about?!? How can you think differently in a way that will get you to push forward when you feel like hesitating? I’m Valorie Burton, and I sometimes jokingly refer to myself as a ‘recovering procrastinator.’ - [Episode 17: Cultivating Positive Emotions: Your Key to Progress](https://valorieburton.com/episode-17-cultivating-positive-emotions-your-key-to-progress/) - Episode #17Cultivating Positive Emotions: Your Key to ProgressLet’s face it: there are days when you just don’t feel like getting things done. On those days, what are the thoughts that can move you forward when you don’t feel motivated? Valorie is sharing a simple yet valuable tool on how we can keep moving forward on - [Episode 15: The 4 D's: A Simple, Successful Formula for Overcoming Overwhelm](https://valorieburton.com/episode-15-the-4-ds-a-simple-successful-formula-for-overcoming-overwhelm/) - Episode #15The 4 D’s: A Simple, Successful Formula for Overcoming OverwhelmHave you ever felt so overwhelmed you don’t know what to do next? Most of us have been there: it all feels too much, we feel the pressure of a deadline, and we try to do it all ourselves. Today, Valorie has a simple formula - [Episode 14: 5 Commitments You Can Make to Build a More Resilient You](https://valorieburton.com/episode-13-a-3-step-process-to-increase-your-confidence-right-now/) - Episode #145 Commitments You Can Make to Build a More Resilient YouWhat does it take to be better – and not bitter – after a setback? Today on Successful Women Think Differently, host Valorie Burton is talking about the 5 Commitments to Resilience we can all make that can help us deal with adversity in - [Episode 12: 3 Proven Strategies to Reign in Your Perfectionism](https://valorieburton.com/episode-12-3-proven-strategies-to-reign-in-your-perfectionism/) - Episode #123 Proven Strategies to Reign in Your PerfectionismDo you ever find it difficult to complete any project because you’re still putting the finishing touches on it? Do you keep putting off goals because the timing isn’t right? In other words, is your perfectionism getting in the way of you living a successful life? Perfectionism - [Watch my New Year, New You Challenge interview on HLN!](https://valorieburton.com/watch-my-new-year-new-you-challenge-interview-on-hln/) - On Thursday, I drove over to the CNN Center for an interview on HLN, where I shared all 5 questions from the New Year, New You Challenge. It was fun interviewing with host Vinnie Politan, although it always amazes me that it takes me two hours to get ready for a 4-minute interview! Anyway, now - [Watch me on the TODAY Show tomorrow!](https://valorieburton.com/watch-me-on-the-today-show-tomorrow/) - I just landed in New York. I love this city - especially when it's 70 degrees! Tune in for the fourth hour of the Today Show on Tuesday with the fabulous duo Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb. I'll be a guest along with Dr. Dale Atkins, and sharing advice from Successful Women Think Differently - [Watch my TODAY Show appearance - and subscribe to my YouTube channel](https://valorieburton.com/watch-my-today-show-appearance-and-subscribe-to-my-youtube-channel/) - In case you missed my TODAY Show appearance on April 9, no worries! We've posted it on my YouTube Channel. To automatically get my latest videos and interviews, go to www.youtube.com/valorieburton and subscribe to my channel. But I've posted it here on the blog for you. The interview is about how to decrease your stress - [Watch my TODAY Show appearance - and subscribe to my YouTube channel!](https://valorieburton.com/watch-my-today-show-appearance-and-subscribe-to-my-youtube-channel-2/) - In case you missed my TODAY Show appearance on June 7, no worries! We've posted it on my YouTube Channel. To automatically get my latest videos and interviews, go to www.youtube.com/valorieburton and subscribe to my channel. But I've posted it here on the blog for you. Watch this special segment, Coach Me If You Can, - [Watch my TODAY Show appearance - and subscribe to my YouTube channel!](https://valorieburton.com/today-show-protecting-your-reputation/) - Check out my June 18th TODAY show segment "Protecting Your Reputation" as we discuss how to keep a clean image and name in our internet driven society. I've also posted it on my YouTube Channel. To automatically get my latest videos and interviews, go to www.youtube.com/valorieburton and subscribe to my channel. Enjoy :) - [Watch my TODAY Show appearance - and subscribe to my YouTube channel!](https://valorieburton.com/check-out-todays-coach-me-if-you-can-segment-on-the-today-show/) - In case you missed my TODAY Show appearance yesterday, July 18th, no worries! We've posted it on my YouTube Channel. To automatically get my latest videos and interviews, go to www.youtube.com/valorieburton and subscribe to my channel. But I've posted it here on the blog just for you. Watch this special segment, Coach Me If You - [Watch my TODAY Show appearance- and subscribe to my YouTube channel!](https://valorieburton.com/watch-today-show-appearance-subscribe-youtube-channel/) - In case you missed my TODAY Show appearance yesterday, January 14th, no worries! We’ve posted it on my YouTube Channel. To automatically get my latest videos and interviews, go to www.youtube.com/valorieburton and subscribe to my channel. But I’ve posted it here on the blog just for you. Watch this special Doing it All segment with - [Episode 9: How to Make Peace With Lost Time](https://valorieburton.com/episode-9-how-to-make-peace-with-lost-time/) - Episode #9How to Make Peace With Lost TimeDo you ever feel that time is slipping away and you have missed your opportunity to achieve your big dream? If you feel like you’re in the wrong career, or that you should have saved and invested more by now, or started that business you’ve always wanted to - [Episode 11: Real Life Coaching Session: Pushing Through Fear to Bring Your Real Dream to Life](https://valorieburton.com/episode-11-real-life-coaching-session-pushing-through-fear-to-bring-your-real-dream-to-life/) - Episode #11Real Life Coaching Session: Pushing Through Fear to Bring Your Real Dream to LifeHave you ever talked yourself out of your dream? You know what you are capable of; start down the path, and then doubt or fear starts creeping in. In today’s episode, Valorie coaches Tia. She’s a retired colonel who transitioned into - [Episode 10: Flip the Script: How Doing the Opposite of What’s Expected Can Create a Breakthrough](https://valorieburton.com/episode-10-flip-the-script-how-doing-the-opposite-of-whats-expected-can-create-a-breakthrough/) - Episode #10Flip the Script: How Doing the Opposite of What’s Expected Can Create a BreakthroughHave you heard of a concept called Complementarity? It’s a powerful communication tool that turns even the most challenging people and situations completely around. If you’ve ever had someone throw you for a loop with their negativity, causing you to act - [Episode 8: Let Go of the Guilt: How to Stop Beating Yourself up and Take Back Your Joy](https://valorieburton.com/episode-8-let-go-of-the-guilt-how-to-stop-beating-yourself-up-and-take-back-your-joy/) - Episode #8Let Go of the Guilt: How to Stop Beating Yourself Up and Take Back Your JoyDo you beat yourself up when you don’t do things perfectly? Do you struggle with that nagging feeling that you’ve never quite done enough? Perhaps, for example, you have felt guilty about motherhood when you’re achieving success in your - [Episode 7: Get Out of Time Debt: How to Eliminate Overwhelm and Build Time Wealth](https://valorieburton.com/episode-7-get-out-of-time-debt-how-to-eliminate-overwhelm-and-build-time-wealth/) - Episode #7Get Out of Time Debt: How to Eliminate Overwhelm and Build Time WealthThere’s a type of debt that far too many people are drowning in – and it’s not financial debt. This kind of debt is stressful too. It can steal your dreams and your relationships and leave you with that nasty feeling of - [Episode 6: Daring to Dream Big: Learning to Persevere and Trust Your Intuition With Emmy-Nominated Screenwriter Kristin Tucker](https://valorieburton.com/episode-6-daring-to-dream-big-embracing-the-journey-of-ambition-and-vision-with-kristin-tucker/) - Episode #6Daring to Dream Big: Learning to Persevere and Trust Your Intuition With Emmy-Nominated Screenwriter Kristin TuckerHey there! Before we dive into this incredible episode, we wanted to give you a heads-up. We experienced a slight hiccup with our audio during the interview, but rest assured, the content is absolutely phenomenal. So please excuse any - [Episode 5: Simple Ways to Boost Your Joy and Make Success More Fun](https://valorieburton.com/episode-5-simple-ways-to-boost-your-joy-and-make-success-more-fun/) - Episode #5Simple Ways to Boost Your Joy and Make Success More FunWhat are you doing to create happiness in your life? We are often fooled into thinking that success will bring happiness, so we chase material wealth, fame, or job success to make us happy. Science has shown that happiness is a pre-indicator of success. - [Episode 4: From Worries to Wins: End Catastrophic Thinking and Take Control of Your Negative Thoughts](https://valorieburton.com/episode-4-from-worries-to-wins-end-catastrophic-thinking-and-supercharge-your-brain/) - Episode #4From Worries to Wins: End Catastrophic Thinking and Take Control of Your Negative ThoughtsDoes your self-talk often spiral into irrational worst-case scenarios of what’s about to go wrong? There’s a word for that: catastrophizing! Catastrophic thinking can make you anxious, with that awful feeling of foreboding or anxiety that something must be about to - [Episode 3: Learning to Focus on the Goal, Not the Obstacle](https://valorieburton.com/episode-3-learning-to-focus-on-the-goal-not-the-obstacle/) - Episode #3Learning to Focus on the Goal, Not the ObstacleAre you focusing on what you want – or what you don’t want? Successful women, when setting goals, are focusing on the positive things, rather than describing what they don’t want. I’m Valorie Burton, and if you are ready to reframe the way in which you - [Letting Go of Guilt (& Getting Back to Life)](https://valorieburton.com/letting-go-of-guilt-getting-back-to-life/) - Is there a master guilt-tripper in your life? While almost no one enjoys a guilt trip, we all have found ourselves on a one-way ticket to feeling down about ourselves. For those who are lucky enough to not know - [Could Thought Awareness Help You?](https://valorieburton.com/could-thought-awareness-help-you/) - When we set out to accomplish a goal or better our circumstances, it’s fair to expect a healthy mix of “good days” and “bad days.” Or, as I like to say, a mix of success moments and opportunities for a comeback. But I think we can all be honest — it’s not the good days or successful moments that - [Learn to Redirect (not resist) Your Cravings!](https://valorieburton.com/learn-to-redirect-not-resist-your-cravings/) - What do you do impulsively and it ends up stealing your time? Are you a social media scroller? Maybe you impulsively shop online. Or perhaps it’s your cravings in the kitchen that throw you off track. I used to be an emotional spender. When I felt excited, I indulged my impulse to ‘treat myself.’ When - [Are You Experiencing Decision Fatigue?](https://valorieburton.com/are-you-experiencing-decision-fatigue/) - So much to do, so little time. At least, that’s how most of us feel as we juggle, balance, and strive to ‘do it all.’ When in doubt (or on a deadline), we rely on time management “hacks” like multitasking. We do a little scrolling, a little work, a little scrolling while we work… Yet, time and time again, we find - [How to Label Your Emotions](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-label-your-emotions/) - Are you comfortable getting vulnerable for a minute? Can you recall the last decision you made? Did you recently decide to start looking for a new job or go out for a promotion? Was it the decision to close - [How to Reframe Your Responsibilities](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-reframe-your-responsibilities/) - How intentional are you with your words on a daily basis? Do you carefully craft each email, or reread your text messages before hitting send? Now… how intentional are you with the words you say to yourself each day? Do you choose words that allow for exploration and anticipation? Are you thinking about how you frame things to yourself? - [How to Overcome Approval Addiction](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-overcome-approval-addiction/) - When someone has a request for you — a boss with a new project, a friend who needs help moving — how often are you saying yes before thinking through if it’s something you want to actually take on? Further, how likely are you to say yes to something when you really want to say no? If you feel the - [How to Overcome Perfectionism and Get Closer to Real Growth](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-overcome-perfectionism-and-get-closer-to-real-growth/) - “I’m not about perfection, I’m about excellence.” – Valorie Burton If a close friend described you as a perfectionist, would you take it as a compliment or constructive feedback? For some, being a perfectionist seems admirable. It implies that you stop at nothing until everything is just right. But just because something is implied, doesn’t make - [How to Preserve Your Time and Energy](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-preserve-your-time-and-energy/) - How many of us would say our greatest strength can also be our greatest weakness? Here’s a characteristic that you may be surprised to learn can be pretty challenging: being responsible. What? Being responsible means I’m getting my work done and making moves. How can that hinder me from my goals? It’s not that it’s - [Trouble Saying ‘No’? This Is For You](https://valorieburton.com/trouble-saying-no-this-is-for-you/) - How good are you at saying no? If it doesn’t come easily to you, you’re not alone. We say yes to projects and people, and watch as the appointments and deadlines pile up. We think the cure is better time management and productivity hacks. In reality, we need to get clear on why we have such a - [Do You See Accountability as a Punishment or a Tool to Grow?](https://valorieburton.com/do-you-see-accountability-as-a-punishment-or-a-tool-to-grow/) - Here’s a word that can stop you in your tracks: accountability. When you hear the word “accountability,” you probably don’t get excited. It’s not exactly a fun word. Words like “vision” and “happiness” can leave us daydreaming. But accountability is sobering. It’s where the hard work is non-negotiable. Intimidating, even. In fact, when you think of - [What is Coaching?](https://valorieburton.com/what-is-coaching-and-could-i-be-one/) - Coaching allows you to stand out and show up different for yourself and others. – Valorie Burton The #1 question I get asked? What is coaching? The #1 follow-up question? Why would I, or someone else, want to hire a coach? I love peeling back the layers to this question. Let’s start with what coaching - [The Real Reason You’re Procrastinating Pt. 1](https://valorieburton.com/the-real-reason-youre-procastinating/) - The first step toward success is all about asking yourself the right questions. Valorie Burton Your to-do list is a mile long, and you’re exhausted just thinking about what needs to be accomplished. Time is ticking, so why is it so hard to take the first step toward completion? Here’s a hint: it has nothing - [How to Take a Compliment Pt.2](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-take-a-compliment/) - How you receive a compliment can determine how you receive success. – Valorie Burton Most of us set and achieve growth goals because we have big aspirations. We want to reach our full potential, and hey, a little appreciation and recognition would be nice, too. So, I’m curious, what do you do when the compliments - [4 Ways to Give a Compliment Pt. 3](https://valorieburton.com/4-ways-to-give-a-compliment/) - Lately, we’ve been talking about getting to where we want to be. And without question, we’ll have to take people with us along the way. But how do we build a connection in the early stages? A simple starting part is paying a genuine compliment. While some struggle with receiving a compliment, others find it - [2 Questions to Have Better Relationships Starting Today Pt. 4](https://valorieburton.com/2-questions-to-have-better-relationships-starting-today/) - Relationships touch every aspect of our lives. Many of us interact with dozens of people in a single day: a spouse, a friend, coworkers, children, the barista at our local coffee shop. This leaves plenty of opportunities for both negative and positive experiences. While most of us would admit that we prefer positive exchanges to negative ones, we know that the - [Is Working From Home Working For You? Pt. 5](https://valorieburton.com/is-working-from-home-working-for-you/) - Going to work looks entirely different from what it did several years ago. Before 2020, most of us survived long commutes while wearing a suit. Three years — and one global pandemic — later, and many of us are Working From Home (WFH) in our yoga pants. (Heck, I’m writing this newsletter from home!) And while working from - [Feeling Overwhelmed? Unpack it All in Three Steps Pt. 6](https://valorieburton.com/feeling-overwhelmed-unpack-it-all-in-three-steps/) - One thing you can’t avoid in life is problems and obstacles. They present themselves at work, at home, and in our most intimate and casual relationships. But at times it seems like we’re really enduring a season of struggle, and we find ourselves complaining ….a lot. If you’re there now, there is a light at - [Are You Easy to Love? Seven Keys to Love and Be Loved](https://valorieburton.com/are-you-easy-to-love/) - Since February is the month we talk most about love, I'd like to share a column that I wrote previously, and think you may enjoy it this week. I bought a cute card for my goddaughter. Her birthday falls on Valentine's Day and the card jokingly said, "People born on Valentine's Day are easier to love." It - [Turn Your Passion into Profit](https://valorieburton.com/turn-your-passion-into-profit/) - "Do what you love, Val, and the rewards will come." It was a piece of advice given to me by one of my mentors not long after I first began working. I was intrigued yet skeptical when he said it. If I followed my passion, would the rewards really come? I have since discovered that - [5 Ways to be Happier at Work](https://valorieburton.com/5-ways-to-be-happier-at-work/) - So maybe you're not one of those people who jump out of bed excited about getting to work. And based on your current job, perhaps you never will be. But you can be happier while you're there. And wouldn't that be worth the effort? As the saying goes, "If you can't be in the job - [Carve Out Time for the People That Matter Most](https://valorieburton.com/carve-out-time-for-the-people-that-matter-most/) - "No man on his death bed ever said, 'I wish I had spent more time at the office.'" - The late Sen. Paul Tsongas of Massachusetts When I moved to Maryland in 2003, my father serendipitously received a promotion to move from Colorado to nearby northern Virginia. We had not lived in the same city - [5 Ways to Get Noticed by Your Boss](https://valorieburton.com/5-ways-get-noticed-boss/) - Who gets ahead more in the workplace? Is it the in-your-face self-promoter, or the modest hard worker who sometimes lets her accomplishments go under the radar? More importantly, what's your style? And how can you adjust it to get noticed and land that next promotion? Coach yourself with these five questions to start getting noticed - [Career Financial Checkup](https://valorieburton.com/career-financial-checkup/) - If you could choose any line of work to be in, would you choose the work you do now? Do you feel good about where you are financially and on track to meet your goals? These two questions speak to the core of two of the most common challenges I've worked with readers and clients - [Confessions of a Recovering Procrastinator](https://valorieburton.com/confession-of-a-recovering-procrastinator/) - I’m writing this from my hotel room. One mile from home. I know. It’s strange. I tried to explain it to a good friend who called: Me: “I’m at a hotel down the street.” Friend: “What city are you in?” Me: “Atlanta.” Friend: “You mean, you’re going home to Atlanta tomorrow?” Me: “No, I’m at - [Thank God it's Monday!?](https://valorieburton.com/thank-god-its-monday/) - I spent January 1st on the beach in Miami. I got every ounce of joy out of my 12-day sabbatical – Christmastime with family, rest, play, and napping to the sound of the Atlantic’s waves crashing on the South Florida shore. In fact, I didn’t get back until New Year’s night. I fussed at myself - [FREE: Listen to the New Year, New You teleclass, if you missed it!](https://valorieburton.com/free-listen-to-the-new-year-new-you-teleclass-if-you-missed-it/) - Hey there! We had an incredible call yesterday. More than 250 of you from as far away as London, England dialed in for our New Year, New You teleclass. The questions you had were fantastic and we came up with solutions to some of your biggest questions, such as: - How do I choose which - [What I'm looking forward to in my 40s ...](https://valorieburton.com/what-im-looking-forward-to-in-my-40s/) - OMG, I'm turning the Big 4-0 today! Me? Really? Some days I wonder how that happened, and why I don't feel as old as I thought I would at 40. I don't feel much different than I did at 25 - perhaps I just have a youthful spirit. A year ago, I felt intimidated by - [5 Ways to Boost Your Mood!](https://valorieburton.com/5-ways-to-boost-your-mood/) - Sometimes, you just need a pick me up. Whether you had a bad day at work, your kids are acting up or something more serious, having the skills to boost your mood can make the frustrations of life a whole lot more bearable. So tuck this list away in your wallet or tack it to - [4 Habits That Are Sabatoging Your Happiness!](https://valorieburton.com/4-habits-that-are-sabatoging-your-happiness/) - Happiness is the only thing we pursue for its own sake. Everything else, we pursue because we think it will make us happier - or at the very least, less sad. But research shows that we are actually poor predictors of what will make us happy. In fact, you might even be sabotaging your happiness. - [Women and Happiness: Why is it on the decline?](https://valorieburton.com/women-and-happiness-why-is-it-on-the-decline/) - I am hard at work on my next book for you. You know my mission is inspiring you to live a more fulfilling life, and giving you tools and coaching to do just that (check out my new Momentum Coaching Club for my latest tool!). In the process, I often find that my own life - [What Kind of Love Do You Give?](https://valorieburton.com/what-kind-of-love-do-you-give/) - Dear Friend, Happy Love Week! That's what I like to call the week of Valentine's Day. While we tend to make Valentine's Day all about chocolate and candlelight dinners, love is so much more than tingly feelings and romance. In fact, I don't think love is much about feelings at all. It's about action. If - [4 Common Habits That Keep You Stuck!](https://valorieburton.com/4-common-habits-that-keep-you-stuck/) - How ironic that I got stuck trying to write this post about getting unstuck! Then I looked at my five-point outline and realized I was engaging in habit #4: Perfectionism. The tape playing in my head yelled as I stared at the blank screen: "You can't start typing words until you figured out exactly how to say - [Motivation Killers!](https://valorieburton.com/motivation-killers/) - Have you ever joined a gym or bought the latest exercise video, only to lose motivation and quit altogether? If you're like most folks, you know what I mean. Your intentions are good, but the fiery motivation that gets you going eventually fizzles and you find yourself right back where you started - or worse. - [Not Sure What to do Next? 5 Lessons to Get Your Answer!](https://valorieburton.com/not-sure-what-to-do-next-5-lessons-to-get-your-answer/) - "I hate not knowing," a friend complained as she tried to figure out some steps to take personally and professionally. "I'm used to having a game plan, but right now I feel stuck because I honestly don't know what the right answer is. I want to plan the next stage of my life - and - [4 Things Resilient People Do!](https://valorieburton.com/4-things-resilient-people-do/) - The last few of years have tested our collective resilience - the economic downturn and layoffs have certainly taken their toll on a lot of individual lives. But even if you haven't been a victim, it's a safe bet you still know what it means to have a setback, whether in a relationship, your health - [Don't Settle!](https://valorieburton.com/dont-settle/) - The very definition of faith requires that you "hope for" something. As I coach others, and in my own personal experience, I've noticed how often people downsize their dreams. And many do it for so long, that settling for less becomes a habit. Can you relate? When you stop hoping, you start settling. You begin - [6 Signs That You Need a Break!](https://valorieburton.com/6-signs-that-you-need-a-break/) - Do you need a break? Many of us do, but the real question is, "Will you take time for one?" Those of us alive today are living at a faster pace than any human beings who've ever walked the planet. Advertisers tell us our tech gadgets will save us time, but as quickly as we - [Spring Clean Your Life: 5 Questions to Start a New Path!](https://valorieburton.com/spring-clean-your-life-5-questions-to-start-a-new-path/) - Have you noticed? A new season is just around the corner. Every year, I get giddy when signs of spring whisper promises of winter's demise. Sure, it might get cold again. But it won't last! Just hang on a little while longer, and spring will arrive. When that happens, it reminds us that our lives - [5 Steps To a Wealthier You!](https://valorieburton.com/5-steps-to-a-wealthier-you/) - In a culture that often equates "wealth" with materialism, it's no wonder debt is out of control and savings are low. This week, I feel led to encourage you in the area of your finances. Answer these questions for yourself: Do you know how much you'll need for retirement? Are you on track to get - [My 5 Tips from the Today Show!](https://valorieburton.com/my-5-tips-from-the-today-show/) - So just how resilient are you? This morning I was on the Today Show with the fabulous Kathie Lee and Hoda Kotb discussing how to reduce our stress levels when juggling a ridiculous amount of demands. In today’s culture and economy, resilience is the key to success and happiness in the ever-increasing stressors: A shrinking - [Why a grown woman buys a swing … and other lessons for finding happiness in the midst of busyness!](https://valorieburton.com/why-a-grown-woman-buys-a-swing-other-lessons-for-finding-happiness-in-the-midst-of-busyness/) - I’m in the thick of writing a book about women and happiness – and lessons seem to appear constantly. Last Wednesday, I was still on a high from my trip to New York – including an appearance on the TODAY Show and quick meetings with fabulous folks at the Dr. Oz Show and Essence. It - [Success is Right Under Your Nose!](https://valorieburton.com/success-is-right-under-your-nose/) - I feel led this week to give you a few words of inspiration about how your words can propel you to success rather than sabotage your efforts. Success often comes to those who know what to say, when to say it and how to say it. Those with talent, but don't communicate effectively often never - [It's Time to Make a Bold Decision!](https://valorieburton.com/its-time-to-make-a-bold-decision/) - I'm not sure who this message is for, but I felt a strong urge to write it, so since you're reading it, perhaps I wrote it just for you. It's short and sweet. Enjoy ... A real sign of growing up spiritually and emotionally occurs when you stop making decisions based on everyone else's expectations. - [Carve Out Time for the People That Matter!](https://valorieburton.com/carve-out-time-for-the-people-that-matter/) - "No man on his death bed ever said, 'I wish I had spent more time at the office.'" - The late Sen. Paul Tsongas of Massachusetts When I moved to Maryland in 2003, my father serendipitously received a promotion to move from Colorado to nearby northern Virginia. We had not lived in the same - [5 Tips for Recent College Graduates!](https://valorieburton.com/5-tips-for-recent-college-graduates/) - It's graduation time and thousands of college grads are hopeful about what the future holds. For some, that future is a vision they can see clearly and for others, it's fuzzy and they are just hoping for the best. If you are one of the thousands of graduates donning a cap and gown this spring - [How to Say "NO" in a Sticky Situation!](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-say-no-in-a-sticky-situation/) - Women are some of the busiest people around, but life taming your hectic schedule could be as easy as learning to say "no" more often. If your life sometimes feels overloaded, read on. I'll give you the script to speak up and stop taking on so much. The result? A happier, healthier you. Do you - [Happiness Trigger: Notice What's in Front of You!](https://valorieburton.com/happiness-trigger-notice-whats-in-front-of-you/) - I'm right smack in the middle of my manuscript for my new book, Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day (coming October 1st!). I'm quite excited about it sharing little pieces from the book with you. With women's happiness declining while men's happiness continues to climb, women need to be - [Conversation Starter: You Should Have it All, Right?](https://valorieburton.com/conversation-starter-you-should-have-it-all-right/) - I shared with you on Tuesday that I'm right smack in the middle of my manuscript for my new book, Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day (coming October 1st!). As promised, I'm sharing some little pieces from the book with you. In addition to the 13 happiness triggers, I - [Happiness Trigger: PLAY!](https://valorieburton.com/happiness-trigger-play/) - As I shared you all last week, I am in the middle of my manuscript for my new book, Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day (coming October 1st!). I'm sharing little pieces from the book with you for the next few weeks. I want your feedback and comments! Don’t - [Conversation Starter: When a Woman Makes More Money than Her Honey](https://valorieburton.com/conversation-starter-when-a-woman-makes-more-money-than-her-honey/) - How do you feel about making more money than your spouse or significant other? Do you believe men are intimidated by a woman making more money or is that just an excuse that women use to explain away deeper issues that are driving men away? These are questions very few women had to answer in - [Happiness Trigger: Flow](https://valorieburton.com/happiness-trigger-flow/) - Check out the next happiness trigger I am sharing with you all, "Flow". Remember, these are little pieces from my next book Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day (coming October 1st!). I want your feedback and comments! Don’t forget, every week, I'll give away $50 in gift cards to - [Conversation Starter: 6 Types of Friends You Need](https://valorieburton.com/conversation-starter-6-types-of-friends-you-need/) - Points to Ponder Studies show that it is a good idea to have several types of friends rather than relying on one or two to meet all of your needs.Statistically speaking, your relationship with your girlfriends will likely outlast your marriage, your parents and your co-workers.One study showed that when fewer than 15% of the - [Happiness Trigger: Connection - Be Around Happy People!](https://valorieburton.com/happiness-trigger-connection/) - Check out the next happiness trigger I am sharing with you all, "Connection". Remember, these are little pieces from my next book Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day (coming October 1st!). I want your feedback and comments! Don’t forget, every week, I'll give away $50 in gift cards to - [Conversation Starter : What makes time fly for you?](https://valorieburton.com/conversation-starter-what-makes-time-fly-for-you/) - When I was a child, I would beg my mother to drop me off at the library. I didn’t really want her to go with me because for me, the world of books was an adventure. There was no telling what I might find on the next shelf! I didn’t want to be limited by - [Happiness Trigger: Service](https://valorieburton.com/happiness-trigger-service/) - Check out the next happiness trigger I am sharing with you all, "Service". Remember, these are little pieces from my next book Happy Women Live Better: 13 Ways to Trigger Your Happiness Every Day (coming October 1st!). I want your feedback and comments! Don’t forget, every week, I'll give away $50 in gift cards to - [LOL...Literally!](https://valorieburton.com/lol-literally/) - “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22 If you were ever a Seinfeld fan, perhaps you remember the episode in which Jerry dates a woman and his friends point out to him that she never laughs. Instead, when Jerry says something funny, she just says - [Do You Like How You Look?](https://valorieburton.com/do-you-like-how-you-look/) - Women of all ages are happier when they feel attractive, according to research. But unless you learn first to like you, just as you are , feeling truly attractive will be a challenge. For years, I did not like my hair. I did everything I could to straighten it, lengthen it, weave it. When I decided - [Ready…Set…Move!](https://valorieburton.com/readysetmove/) - I just came back in from a “wog” – that’s what I call the power walking I do with a little intermittent jogging. I know for sure I feel more alive and energetic than I did when I left. My head is clear and even though I am sitting now, and not walking, I am - [You Are What You Say You Are](https://valorieburton.com/you-are-what-you-say-you-are/) - You’ve heard it many times: You are what you think. But thoughts often become words before they become actions. So it’s safe to say this: You are also what you say. In fact, neuroscientists have now proven that just saying powerful words can make you more powerful. For example, when you lift a weight, saying - [Message to My Younger Self: Get Therapy, Choose to Be Happy](https://valorieburton.com/happiness-message-to-my-younger-self-get-therapy-deal-with-your-issues/) - I love Jennifer Aniston’s happiness advice in the latest issue of Glamour Magazine. Speaking of advice she’d give to her younger self, the popular actress says that, despite her life’s successes, she would have gone to therapy sooner – to better understand herself and “clean up all of the toxins and noise.” In many circles - [Check out my feature in this month’s issue of Women of Standard magazine!](https://valorieburton.com/check-out-my-feature-in-this-months-issue-of-women-of-standard-magazine/) - It is inevitable when you are moving towards a vision and a goal to have fear. When you have fear, it began with thoughts. Thoughts create emotions and actions. Whether you’re feeling happy and elated or fearful and anxious, you have to go back and ask what I am saying to myself that is producing - [Accepting what is...can you handle reality?](https://valorieburton.com/accepting-what-is-can-you-handle-reality/) - Relaxation is largely mental. So when it is time to relax, it is about your approach to your life in general. For many women there is a persistent feeling that they have not yet arrived. Somehow they missed the boat or there is something more they need to do or there is a decision that - [Don't Shop til You Drop!](https://valorieburton.com/dont-shop-til-you-drop/) - "Shop 'til you drop," might be a clever slogan for advertisers, but it's also a literal description of what happens when you shop in an attempt to feel happier. A study released this month reveals something that any emotional spender can already tell you: Feeling down can make you go shopping ... then shopping ends - [Cherish It. Feel It. Savor It.](https://valorieburton.com/savor-the-moment-when-it-arrives/) - Anticipation is savoring the future, but there are two other ways to savor that will make creating something to look forward to all the more worthwhile: Savoring the moment and then reminiscing about it. Once you’ve spent time anticipating the experience, make sure you actually enjoy the experience. In our text-happy, social-media saturated culture, there - [Facebook or Fakebook?](https://valorieburton.com/facebook-fakebook/) - Alexis logged onto Facebook one evening after getting home from work and scrolled through the news feed. Her fellow high school track buddy Ericka posted an adorable video of her two-year old daughter playing in the backyard. A colleague from her first job out of college posted a pic of her and her husband hiking - [Mission Accomplished?](https://valorieburton.com/mission-accompolished/) - Why are you here? I don't mean why are you here reading this right now. Instead, why are you here on this planet at this time, born into the family you were born into, with your unique gifts and talents, with your experiences? There is indeed a reason you are here. It's your purpose. Some - [Why you don’t want what you wanted!](https://valorieburton.com/dont-want-wanted/) - One of the most telling truths about happiness is that we are pretty poor predictors of what will actually make us happy. We truly believe that if we just had that job or that house or that relationship, we’d be happy. But often, once we get it, the reality of what is required to have - [Tune in RIGHT NOW to the world premiere of the Happy Women Live Better webisode!](https://valorieburton.com/tune-right-now-world-premiere-happy-women-live-better-webisode/) - I am so excited to premiere my new book, Happy Women Live Better to you on the eve of it's release. Join me LIVE right now, for the world premiere! Women have more education, more money, and more choices than ever before. Yet, research shows we are less happy than women 40 years ago. Today, - [Lower Your Expectation, Trust Me!](https://valorieburton.com/lower-expectation-trust/) - Happiness, to a great extent, is having something to look forward to. It is savoring what's coming up. The happiness trigger of "anticipation" is easy to pull off, but you must be intentional about it. But with being intentional, you must also lower the expectation, to lower your anxiety. Ok I know what you are - [Are You Putting on a Smiling Face?](https://valorieburton.com/putting-smiling-face/) - "A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." -Proverbs 17:22 Women tend to show their emotions on their faces more than men, and research shows we are also more adept at reading emotional expressions than men. It is possible then that as a woman, you are more impacted by - [Relaxation: The New Happy?](https://valorieburton.com/relaxation-the-new-happy/) - After a whirlwind five weeks in which I traveled to 10 cities - I gladly welcomed a week with no travel. After a day off on Tuesday, my brain still wasn't quite ready to go back to work. So around 1 pm on Wednesday, I plopped myself down in front of the desk of - [Miss my FREE "Power of Coaching" teleseminar? That's OK, I've got the recording for you right here!](https://valorieburton.com/miss-free-power-coaching-teleseminar-thats-ok-ive-got-recording-right/) - Did you miss it? It was an amazing call! More than 250 people signed up for our free lunchtime teleseminar on Friday about the Power of Coaching. Executive coach extraordinaire and CaPP Institute faculty member LaFern Batie joined me in this dynamic discussion about coaching and live interactive coaching with callers. The event was a - [Coach yourself to a breakthrough: 3 questions to answer right now](https://valorieburton.com/coach-breakthrough-3-questions-answer-right-now/) - I kind of stumbled into coaching. It seems to happen that way with many things in life that end up purposeful. I think it’s divine orchestration. Twelve years ago, when the Random House edition of my self-published book Rich Minds Rich Rewards came out, I found myself being interviewed weekly on a local television - [The Surprising Secret to Getting More of What You Want!](https://valorieburton.com/surprising-secret-getting-want/) - "When you let go of what your life 'should' be, you are free to focus on what your life 'could' be right now." - Happy Women Live Better I posted this quote from Happy Women Live Better on my FaceBook fan page last week, and it seemed to resonate with a lot of people. - [Missed our teleseminar on Monday? I’ve got the recording for you right here!](https://valorieburton.com/miss-teleseminar-monday-ive-got-recording-right-listen-star-panel-coaches-really-takes-make-money-coach/) - Listen to our “All-Star Panel of Coaches: What it really takes to make money as a coach” We had an incredible call on Monday with more than 200 aspiring and experienced coaches dialing in to hear my all-star panel of amazing coaches who also happen to be my friends: Marshawn Evans, Kimberly DuBrul and LaFern - [It's Time To Get Serious About Your Dream!](https://valorieburton.com/time-get-serious-dream/) - I'm getting pretty excited about our upcoming Coach Training Intensive this weekend in Atlanta. Something came up during our CTI preview call last Monday with my friends Marshawn Evans, LaFern Batie and Kimberly DuBrul, all-star coaches who have built very successful, profitable businesses as coaches. More than 200 of you registered for the call and the - [Do all that YOU can to live at peace with everyone](https://valorieburton.com/can-live-peace-everyone/) - Happy Wednesday! I want to share with you this week a special blog post from a fellow Harvest House author, Shelley Hendrix. As you may know, 1 of the 13 happiness triggers in my book, Happy Women Live Better, is all about connection. Connection has a lot to do with building and upholding strong personal and even - [The Simplest Form of Happiness!](https://valorieburton.com/simplest-form-happiness/) - Earlier this week, I was reminiscing about an evening several years ago when my neighbor called to ask if she could borrow two eggs. She was in the middle of cooking something and realized she was out. She apologized a couple of times for needing to ask, but there was a spark in my heart - [How to Get Unstuck](https://valorieburton.com/get-unstuck/) - A few years ago, my dad and I were talking about how to get up really early in the morning when you feel like hitting snooze and burying your head under the covers. He said something that always sticks with me on days when I feel like turning back over: “The key is to get - [Congratulations to the winners of the Happy Women Live Better pre-order to win contest!](https://valorieburton.com/congratulations-winners-happy-women-live-better-pre-order-win-contest/) - I’m so excited to announce the winners of the Happy Women Live Better pre-order to win contest! We received hundreds of submissions. The 13 winners will get prize packs worth over $500 each from some of my favorite companies! Plus, a free signed copy of my new book, Happy Women Live Better: - [Thanksgiving Gratitude!](https://valorieburton.com/thanksgiving-gratitude/) - "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." - Oprah Winfrey What are you most thankful for this Thanksgiving? Research shows, there are benefits to giving thanks - not just gratitude for what we have, but expressing - [What Lesson is Your Life Offering Right Now?](https://valorieburton.com/lesson-life-offering-right-now/) - This week, I challenge you to consider the lessons your life is offering you right now. I say, "offering" because God offers lessons, but it is up to us to learn from them. If we don't learn, the same lessons are offered again and again. Through both frustrations and exciting times, there is something for - [A Special Christmas Message from Rockefeller Center!](https://valorieburton.com/special-christmas-message-rockefeller-center/) - Remember the real reason for this season. Find a way to show the love of Jesus Christ in the world around you. My challenge to you this week: Who will you bless this Christmas season? How will you do it and when? Leave your comments. I'd love to hear from you! - [Take the focus off of yourself! What will you do to make a difference this season?](https://valorieburton.com/take-focus-will-make-difference-season/) - Have you ever noticed how great it feels to make a difference in someone else's life? Often, making a difference for someone else can make a meaningful difference in your own life. Let me share an example from my life. A few years ago, I spent Christmas without any members of my family - a - [Ask Yourself These Five Questions Before the Year Ends!](https://valorieburton.com/ask-five-questions-year-ends/) - I pray this Christmas will be blessed, joyful and peaceful for you. As we celebrate the birth of Jesus, please remember the reason for the season! We are near the end of another year and I thought this would be a great time to pose five important questions for you. We become wiser when we - [What Do You Want to Leave Behind?](https://valorieburton.com/want-leave-behind/) - In preparation for a New Year, I invite you to start 2014 by leaving some things behind. I challenge and encourage you each week to take steps toward your vision, to dream a bigger dream, listen to your life, and focus on what's truly important to you. To do that, you must first ensure that - [What is it Finally Time for You To Do?](https://valorieburton.com/finally-time/) - "What is it finally time for you to do?" It's a great question for the beginning of the year. Perhaps there is something you've been talking about doing, thinking about doing, even daydreaming about doing. And in 2014, it's time to make a move! A few years ago, I discovered a scripture in Ecclesiastes 5:3 - [THANKS FOR ALL YOUR PRAYERS - I'VE FELT THEM ...](https://valorieburton.com/thanks-prayers-ive-felt/) - I had a distinct feeling a year ago that 2013 would be my best year yet - and it was! I enter 2014 happier than I've ever been, with my bestselling year to date, and MY MARRIAGE this week to the man God made just for me and me for him! If you doubt your - [Are You In It, To Win It?](https://valorieburton.com/win/) - "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize." - 1 Corinthian 9:24 I ran across this scripture recently. It is one that always inspires me and reminds me of the importance of having a - [Go Towards the Green Lights!](https://valorieburton.com/go-towards-green-lights/) - If you've read my writing for even a short time, you know I believe in the power of a clear, compelling vision. But what if your vision is clear and compelling, but the doors are opening in a slightly different direction? That very scenario happened to me recently - we created purposeful projects to "go - [It's Time to Stop Complaining and Solve the Problem!](https://valorieburton.com/time-stop-complaining-solve-problem/) - "Do all things without grumbling, faultfinding, and complaining." - Philippians 2:14 What do you find yourself complaining about in your day-to-day life? A moody client, boss, or employee? Messy spouse? Clutter? Poor service? When it comes to learning and growing, a useful tool for making meaningful changes can be your own complaints. After all, the things - [Want To Boost Your Pay - Change This One Bad Habit!](https://valorieburton.com/want-boost-pay-change-one-bad-habit/) - I don't know about you, but over the course of my career, I have certainly had the occasion to realize I was underpaid for the work I was doing. In fact, the first time I was offered a job out of school, doing sports public relations, the salary they offered was abysmal. I tried to - [Snow Days, Pipe Burst and an Inconvenient Gift!](https://valorieburton.com/snow-days-pipe-burst-inconvenient-gift/) - A couple of weeks ago when it snowed two inches and the Atlanta metro area closed down for four days, the cold snap caused a pipe to burst in our bedroom. I could go on about the ridiculousness of two inches of snow shutting things down for four days, but I'll save that column for - [Look at it This Way!](https://valorieburton.com/look-way/) - Sometimes all you need to do to get yourself out of a rut is to look at things from a different perspective. What challenge is causing you stress? What dilemma has you stumped for a solution? What issue has caused you a bit of frustration lately? This week, I want to challenge you to step - [You Can Have Health, Peace AND Happiness!](https://valorieburton.com/can-health-peace-happiness/) - Happy Thursday! I want to share a special blog post with you from a fellow Master of Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP) graduate and bestselling author, Caroline Adams Miller. I’m hoping that her story of hope and triumph will inspire one of my readers who may be facing a similar challenging situation. Learn how Caroline used - [Waiting Can Be A Good Thing!](https://valorieburton.com/waiting-can-good-thing/) - While returning from a speaking engagement on an evening flight, the pilot announced that he expected we would land a few minutes early. Instead, as we approached, nearby thunderstorms changed the plan. For more than an hour - as daylight turned to evening - we circled. At first, I found myself - like many of - [The May Coach Training Intensive is SOLD OUT, but We've Added Another Training!](https://valorieburton.com/may-coach-training-intensive-sold-weve-added-another-training/) - The Coach Training Intensive is coming to Atlanta June 21-23, 2014! I'm excited that so many of you registered that we're now sold out! So many of you registered for our upcoming Coach Training Intensive in Washington, D.C. that we are now sold out! This is a good problem to have, and we - [What are You Tolerating?](https://valorieburton.com/intentionally-shift-perspective/) - What exists in your life right now that isn't quite the way you'd like it to be? You know, those things you put up with that you've been meaning to fix, but haven't? Perhaps it's the clutter piled up in your office or bedroom or your car. Maybe it's the oil that needs to be - [How Bright is Your Light?](https://valorieburton.com/bright-light/) - This week, I would like to remind you of one of your most important "divine assignments" - being a light that draws people closer to God. No matter what your purpose in life, this is an underlying mission: Living your life in such a way that people say to themselves, "There's something different about that - [Spring Clean Your Life!](https://valorieburton.com/spring-clean-life/) - On Thursday, March 20th during the 9am EST hour, I’ll be on the TODAY Show talking about ways to spring clean your life. I want to hear from you- in what ways have you been stuck in a rut this winter? It may be a standstill relationship, a frustrating career, a lack of exercise, or - [Do You Have the 'Soft Skills' to Get Ahead at Work?](https://valorieburton.com/soft-skills-get-ahead-work/) - One of my mentors once told me as I asked for advice about how to advance my career, "You don't know what you don't know and you think you know." Ouch. My pride was a little bruised, but I knew he knew what he was talking about so it was in my best interest to - [Are You Listening to Your Life?](https://valorieburton.com/listening-life/) - I'd like to share seven principles with you that are essential to living the life you were created to live. Extraordinary success is about experiencing fulfillment in all areas of your life, not just your career, but your relationships, health, finances, and spiritual life. It's possible to be on a path in your life that - [Destress Your Life by Setting Boundaries](https://valorieburton.com/destress-life-setting-boundaries/) - From a boss who yells, to friends who take advantage of your generosity, it seems some people have no problem stepping over the line--stressing you out in the process. But you don't have to put up with it. De-stressing your life by setting boundaries is a decision you can make today. Are you one of - [Gabrielle Bernstein's new book, Miracles Now, launches today!](https://valorieburton.com/gabrielle-bernsteins-new-book-miracles-now-launches-today/) - I’m thrilled to share exciting news with you: My co-panelist on the TODAY Show and bestselling author, Gabrielle Bernstein, just launched her newest book, Miracles Now! Gabrielle knows that most of us don’t have tons of free time every day to devote to meditation or yoga. Sometimes it’s even a challenge to squeeze a 20-minute walk - [It's Just an Experiment...Go Ahead, Try It!](https://valorieburton.com/just-experiment-go-ahead-try/) - A few years ago, I had a challenging idea: Try a vegetarian diet for one weekend. I have always admired people who are able to be disciplined in their eating habits and intrigued by the idea of trying something even more healthy than my regular diet. I tried a similar experiment when I was 13 - [Single Mom Salute – and a Personalized Happiness Action Plan](https://valorieburton.com/single-mom-salute-personalized-happiness-action-plan/) - OK, so this is my fourth day working and taking care of my bonus daughters alone while my hubby is on a trip. You might already know that a few months ago, I married the most supportive, thoughtful, generous man who is an amazing dad – and let me tell you, Jeff’s entire family is - [Did you miss my FREE Goal Setters, Goal Getters teleclass? That's OK, I've got the recording for you right here!](https://valorieburton.com/miss-free-goal-setters-goal-getters-teleclass-thats-ok-ive-got-recording-right/) - Did you miss it? It was an amazing call! More than 500 people signed up for our free lunchtime Goal Setters, Goal Getters teleclass today. The event was a preview call for our upcoming Coach Training Intensive that will be held June 21-23 in Atlanta, Georgia. Experienced and aspiring coaches, leaders, and professionals are coming from - [Give Yourself Some Room for Error!](https://valorieburton.com/give-room-error/) - I'd like to share an excerpt from Rich Minds, Rich Rewards. As you strive to meet deadlines and run from one appointment to the next, it is an important concept to remember: One of the biggest causes of stress is that we are constantly trying to do more with less. As a result, we don't - [Your Words Can Change Your Life!](https://valorieburton.com/words-can-change-life/) - "Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul, and health to the bones." - Proverbs 16:24 This week I am led to share some thoughts on the power of the words you use on a daily basis. As you seek to live your best possible life, it is important to be aware of - [Are You at Peace About It?](https://valorieburton.com/peace/) - It's a simple question, but too often, in the face of a decision, we don't ask it. Sure, logic is an important element of making a decision, but so too is intuition. Rather than ignore it or consider it secondary information, honor it. Peace is like an inner GPS system that leads you in the - [Is it Time to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone?](https://valorieburton.com/time-step-comfort-zone/) - I have been pondering a major decision that would take me out of my comfort zone. I've prayed about it and listened for God's guidance. In the process, one of the things I've noticed is how easy it is for the noise of one's emotions to interfere with hearing that divine inner voice that always - [We Missed You at the Spring Coach Training Intensive, But There's Good News...](https://valorieburton.com/missed-spring-coach-training-intensive-theres-good-news/) - Today is the last day of the Spring 2014 Coach Training Intensive in Washington, D.C. I so enjoyed working with such a phenomenal group of students. We had fun, experienced breakthroughs and laid the foundation for developing a successful and lucrative business as a coach. This group was great and I’m confident that they have - [It's Time to Let Go!](https://valorieburton.com/time-let-go/) - "..But one thing I do, forgetting what is behind and straining towards what is ahead.." - Philippians 3:13 When I bought my first condo back in the 90s, I decided to replace the handles on every cabinet and drawer in the kitchen and the bathrooms. I went to a design center and picked out new handles, - [What Season Are You In?](https://valorieburton.com/season/) - You and I probably both agree that wearing a wool coat in July or shorts and flip flops in a snow storm would be downright silly. Folks might even question the state of your mental health for that kind of behavior. But something odd seems to happen when we are impatient. Learning to relax in - [Intentionally Shift Your Perspective!](https://valorieburton.com/intentionally-shift-perspective-2/) - Personal transformation, the process of growth through the challenges and opportunities of life, is about maximizing your God-given potential. One of the most important parts of the process is being able to see the big picture when faced with a challenge. Psychological research shows that those who are optimistic are more successful in work and - [Is It Time to Upgrade Your Thoughts?](https://valorieburton.com/time-upgrade-thoughts/) - Living a consistently fulfilling life is a decision - and it begins with how you think. I say "consistently fulfilling," because true success comes from being fulfilled in every area of your life, living on purpose and growing every day. Doing so requires you to think purposefully, deliberately and openly about your life and your - [Ahhh...It's Time to Relax!](https://valorieburton.com/ahhh-time-relax/) - In our stress-filled world, it can be easy to become uptight, irritable and just plain unpleasant. But why live that way when you can relax, enjoy life and accomplish more than those who spend their days in a frenzy? Here are five powerful ways to simply relax: 1. Forget perfection Do you have a hard - [Be Yourself - 4 Ways to Bring Out Your Best You!](https://valorieburton.com/4-ways-bring-best/) - "Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Taken". Oscar Wilde In recent conversations, the theme "be you" came up several times. And when themes emerge, I always like to seek the lesson for myself and eventually share it with you. If you feel like sometimes you struggle with saying what you mean, doing what you love or - [Is It Time for a Little self Discipline?](https://valorieburton.com/time-little-self-discipline/) - "... the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience , kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control [self-discipline]." - Galatians 5:22 I recall writing prayerfully in my journal one morning a few years ago about how to get unstuck from a rut. I felt I had reached a plateau. I wanted a bit of - [What Would it Look Like to Accept 'What Is'?](https://valorieburton.com/look-like-accept/) - We can spend so much of our energy pushing uphill against what is. You may wonder, "What is 'what is'?" What is, is reality. It is the inevitable; it is the situation that you wish were not in existence. It is the fact that: You would prefer it if someone else was your boss - [Are You At Peace About It?](https://valorieburton.com/peace-2/) - It's a simple question, but too often, in the face of a decision, we don't ask it. Sure, logic is an important element of making a decision, but so too is intuition. Rather than ignore it or consider it secondary information, honor it. Peace is like an inner GPS system that leads you in the - [Is it Time to Change Your Approach?](https://valorieburton.com/time-change-approach/) - God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." - The Serenity Prayer A woman told me recently, "If I could just get my husband to stop leaving the towels on the floor after he takes a - [If You Knew The Answer, What Would It Be?](https://valorieburton.com/knew-answer/) - I know you've been pondering the answer to your greatest challenge. You've been trying to figure it all out - coming up with various scenarios, seeking outside opinions and generally racking your brain to get the right answer. But my question is a simple one: If you knew the answer, what would it be? Pause. - [Finish Each Day and Be Done with It!](https://valorieburton.com/finish-day-done/) - Do you have a hard time leaving work at work? Is your to-do list so long that it is never possible to finish everything you set out to do in a day? I have always loved this quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson: "Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you - [Forget Perfection!](https://valorieburton.com/forget-perfection/) - Do you insist that everything be done a certain way? Do you have a hard time relaxing if your house is a mess or things are out of order? Do you beat yourself up for making mistakes? I've got a simple message for you today: It's time to let go of your perfectionism. It may - [What's Your Purpose?](https://valorieburton.com/whats-purpose/) - Why are you here? I don't mean why are you here reading these words right now. Instead, why are you here on this planet at this time, born into the family you were born into, with your unique gifts and talents, with your experiences? There is indeed a reason you are here. It's your purpose. - [Joy Comes in the Morning!](https://valorieburton.com/joy-comes-in-the-morning/) - I visited Colorado Springs for a speaking engagement and a few meetings. A friend picked me up at the airport, and took me to dinner. We then headed to Glen Eyrie Castle and Conference Center, where I'd be staying during my trip. Before arriving, I had received a generous invitation from a staff member at - [5 Lessons to Remember When You Are Feeling Stuck, Frustrated, or Unsure!](https://valorieburton.com/5-lessons-remember-feeling-stuck-frustrated-unsure/) - As I journaled one day about the lessons God has offered me thus far in life, this is what came to me. Perhaps you've learned these along your journey as well. Sometimes in the hectic pace of life, we need a reminder, and that is what I am here to offer you today: 1. - [Don't Go It Alone!](https://valorieburton.com/dont-go-lone/) - The most persistent fear I have repeatedly overcome is a fear of rejection. The irony of this people-pleasing fear is that it can manifest in a lot of behaviors, one of which is solitude. Without consciously connecting your fear with your choices, those whose core fear is rejection can make a habit of going it - [If You Are Tired of Starting Over, Stop Giving Up!](https://valorieburton.com/tired-starting-stop-giving/) - In what area of your life have you contemplated giving up lately? It crosses the minds of even the most tenacious - I've been there. And this week, I feel led to encourage you to hang in there. I know, I know. You're tired. You thought things would have taken off in your career or - [The Most Important Step to Getting Unstuck!](https://valorieburton.com/important-step-getting-unstuck/) - Why is it that we ignore the truth? Or even hide from it? You had an inkling that the person wasn't who they appeared to be, but you got involved anyway - now you feel stuck trying to get out of the relationship. You knew instinctively it was not time to buy that thing you - [My NEW Book, Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable is in a Store Near You!](https://valorieburton.com/new-book-get-unstuck-unstoppable-store-near/) - I'm so excited that my new book, Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable officially launched today! This book is so special to me because like you, I've been stuck. More importantly, the life I live today is better than I even imagined - and it's all because I made a decision and found the courage to break free of fear - [Is Your Light Bright Enough?](https://valorieburton.com/light-bright-enough/) - "... Let your light shine before [others], that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven." -- Matthew 5:16 This week, I would like to remind you of one of your most important "divine assignments" - being a light that draws people closer to God. No matter what your purpose in - [Will You Be Joining Me in a Few Weeks?](https://valorieburton.com/will-joining-weeks/) - I am so excited to announce that we are hosting our THIRD Coach Training Intensive for the year in just a few weeks! This intensive is an accelerated personal and executive coaching course that also features our popular bonus Business Development Day for those who want to grow a highly profitable coaching business. This intensive is - [Gear Up, Don't Give Up!](https://valorieburton.com/gear-dont-give/) - There's often a point as you are moving towards your vision when things just get hard. You get tired. The road is longer than you expected it to be, and you wonder if things will ever come together. And to be honest, you feel like giving up. In fact, you can try to convince yourself - [The Power of a Small Gesture!](https://valorieburton.com/power-small-gesture/) - We took a family trip to London a few weeks ago. Maybe you saw some of the personal pics on my Facebook fan page. It was so much fun - my first time in England, and my first time back in Europe since living there as a kid. One night, after going to the West End - [Are You Ready for Something New?](https://valorieburton.com/ready-something-new/) - While unpacking a box in my new office this week, I found a little, brown, leather pocket Bible that was given to me almost ten years ago at a business meeting with a publisher. I used it often until a couple of years ago and the satin ribbon bookmark sewn into the binding still marked - [Resistance Means That There's Something There!](https://valorieburton.com/resistance-means-theres-something/) - A few months ago I hired a new coach, presumably to help me navigate the multiple transitions I've enjoyed this year and to get clarity of my vision moving forward. Several times over the last few months, I hung up with my business coach feeling - to be blunt - a little peeved. I found - [It's Not Too Hard!](https://valorieburton.com/hard/) - Have you ever gotten a divine reminder - a little message that reminds you of something you needed in that moment? I got a little reminder and I think it's a message I'm meant to share with you for whatever you may be facing. Each day, I begin by acknowledging what I am looking forward - [The Power of Surrender](https://valorieburton.com/choosing-rest-lord/) - Surrender. It is a word that conjures up thoughts of giving up and giving in. I picture soldiers on the battlefield, rifles above their heads, allowing all their hard-fought efforts to dissipate, all they’ve fought for coming to nothing. It is no wonder then that the idea of surrendering is not an idea I naturally - [Thank You!](https://valorieburton.com/thank/) - A couple of days ago, my brother Wade - who now works with me, walked into my office with a non-descript box that had just arrived from my publisher. Inside, five copies of a hot pink paperback book with foreign symbols I couldn't make out. "What's this?" I asked as I squinted carefully, as though - [Be Intentional!](https://valorieburton.com/intentional/) - So often in life, it is easy to fall into the habit of "living by accident." Whatever opportunities or requests cross your path, you simply follow. Without a clear purpose or vision, it isn't always obvious which choices are best and which ones are best left alone. I want to remind you to live on - [Get Organized!](https://valorieburton.com/get-organized/) - This week, I challenge you to get organized! Life in today's hectic world can move so fast that sometimes you can feel like you are doing great just to get through the day without falling behind. But being organized is a fundamental skill that makes it easier to live, work and play successfully. You - [Happy for the Holidays: 7 Ways to Savor the Season!](https://valorieburton.com/happy-holidays-7-ways-savor-season/) - The holidays can go by very quickly, and if you're not intentional, it's easy not to make the most of the season. Research shows that "savoring," intentionally living in the moment and noticing good things as they happen, creates positive emotion that can improve your health, happiness and relationships. So this year, savor the season! - [Christmas Gift – Jesus’ Advice to Get Unstuck](https://valorieburton.com/christmas-gift-jesus-advice-get-unstuck/) - This week, we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. If you're not careful, it can be easy to miss that fact in the midst of all the shopping, parties and gift giving. But we can't miss it. And we can't miss the many gifts He gave to us during the 33 years He purposefully walked - [What I Learned in 2014](https://valorieburton.com/learned-2015/) - Every year, we are bombarded with "Year in Review" headlines. The best dressed, the top songs, and most fascinating people of the year. But I like to do my own "Year in Review," a self-reflective recap that helps me see how much richer I am at the close of another year. "Joyful is the person - [What is it Time For You To Finally Do?](https://valorieburton.com/time-finally/) - "What is it finally time for you to do?" It's a great question for the beginning of the year. Perhaps there is something you've been talking about doing, thinking about doing, even daydreaming about doing. And in 2015, it's time to make a move! A few years ago, I discovered a scripture in Ecclesiastes 5:3 - [4 Common Habits That Keep You Stuck!](https://valorieburton.com/4-common-habits-keep-stuck/) - The irony is, I got stuck trying to write this column about getting unstuck. Then I looked at my five-point outline and realized I was engaging in habit #4: Perfectionism. The tape playing in my head yelled as I stared at the blank screen: "You can't start typing words until you figured out exactly how to - [Join Me Saturday, February 7th in Atlanta for Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable: The Workshop!](https://valorieburton.com/gubuworkshop/) - Are you ready to Get Unstuck and Be Unstoppable in 2015?! In whatever area of your life you feel stagnant, on February 7th, I want to help you propel you towards the life that's possible if you know the specific mental shifts you need to make and the conscious steps you must take to get - [TODAY Show: Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable in the New Year!](https://valorieburton.com/today-show-get-unstuck-unstoppable-new-year/) - In case you missed it or you just need a boost to help you GET UNSTUCK today, here's my segment from New Year's Day on the TODAY Show with Kathie Lee and Hoda. You can get my videos automatically when you subscribe to my YouTube Channel. And don't forget Barnes & Noble and Amazon are - [Shake Things Up!](https://valorieburton.com/shake-things/) - If you are on my Facebook fan page or Instagram, you may have seen the recent wedding photos I posted on the day Jeff and I celebrated our first anniversary. The night before, when Jeff came home from flying, he casually asked me, “What’s your favorite restaurant in the whole country?” That was easy. There’s - [Your Mind Births Your Reality](https://valorieburton.com/mind-births-reality/) - A study recently published in the Journal of Neurophysiology revealed something that should astound us all: Muscle strength is largely determined not simply by the physical activity that produces muscle, but by the activity of your mind. The study of a small sample of 29 participants is an exciting example of the power of mental - [The Truth Will Set You Free](https://valorieburton.com/truth-will-set-free/) - Every time I do an interview for Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable, inevitably I am asked, “What’s the first step to getting unstuck?” It’s simple. Tell the truth, I answer. Until we admit what we really want, until we acknowledge what we already know in our spirit, until we stop pretending things are OK that truly - [Not Everyone Deserves Your Words or Energy](https://valorieburton.com/not-everyone-deserves-words-energy/) - “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent…” – Proverbs 17:28 Have you ever found yourself with the perfect comeback for someone, but circumstances preclude you from perfect opportunity to utter it? In your mind, you have a well-thought out lecture that person needs to hear. I mean, if they could just get - [Is it the Wise Thing or Just the Next Thing?](https://valorieburton.com/wise-thing-just-next-thing/) - “I guess it just seemed like the next thing to do.” That’s how a man recently described how he ended up in a marriage that didn’t last long. Eleven months, to be exact. “We had been dating for a few years.” In other words, the couple bought into the idea of a pre-determined path. The - [What if it Does Work?](https://valorieburton.com/what-if-it-does-work/) - Fear. It creeps up on us, often without a sound. It asks, "What if everything goes wrong?" "What if I fail?" "What if I never get what I want?" And disastrous answers to those questions can send us down a path of negative thinking that spirals out of control. Psychologists call it "catastrophizing." Next time - [FREE Download: 7 Secrets of Highly Successful Coaches](https://valorieburton.com/free-download-7-secrets-of-highly-successful-coaches/) - Hundreds registered for the powerful teleclass, Seven Secrets of Highly Successful Coaches, yesterday! For those of you who missed it, here's the link to download it for FREE! Our next Coach Training Intensive will be held June 6 - 8, 2015 in Atlanta. It is a life-transforming weekend. Click here for details. - [It’s Not Too Late!](https://valorieburton.com/its-not-too-late/) - During a radio interview, a caller asked me if it was too late - in her forties - to change careers and pursue something for which she is passionate. "It's never too late," I told her. "If you feel led in a new direction, make a plan to transition and go for it!" Her call came - [Guesting hosting the Roland Martin Show on Wednesday from 10am-1pm Eastern](https://valorieburton.com/guesting-hosting-the-roland-martin-show-on-wednesday-from-10am-1pm-eastern/) - Tune in and call in on Wednesday when I'll be guest hosting The Roland Martin Show, syndicated in 26 cities, and live online from 10am-1pm Eastern! Are you ready to get unstuck, be happier and take a leap of faith to radically change your life? I'll be talking with inspiring guests who've done just that - [4 Signs You’re Not Trusting Your Instincts](https://valorieburton.com/4-signs-youre-not-trusting-your-instincts/) - A few days ago, I felt moved to post this on Facebook: “You know truth when you see it. Your spirit knows. Stop doubting and over analyzing. Trust your instincts.” It is a simple truth, but one we often need to be reminded of. If you’ve ever second guessed yourself only to remember later why - [Stop Overthinking It](https://valorieburton.com/stop-overthinking-it/) - In a conversation with an old friend this week, I was reminded of my own advice as I shared with her about a decision I was making. “What are you waiting for? The timing couldn’t be any more perfect!” she said. “If I’m honest, I guess I have some fear about it,” I admitted, to - [Own Your Part](https://valorieburton.com/own-your-part/) - When I went through the most difficult challenge of my life, I made these five commitments that helped me come back better and not bitter. I shared them in a subsequent book, Where Will You Go From Here?: Moving forward when life doesn’t go as planned. I will not feel sorry for myself. I will - [5 Ways to Move into Your Season](https://valorieburton.com/5-ways-to-move-into-your-season/) - As we usher in spring, I feel led to ask you, "Is it time to usher in a new season in your life?" There are few things more frustrating than remaining stuck in the old when it's time to embrace something new. Sometimes the new thing is an inevitable change or transition, whether it was - [Doing Things Because You “Can” vs. Doing Things Because You are “Called”](https://valorieburton.com/doing-things-because-you-can-vs-doing-things-because-you-are-called/) - If goals make your heart skip a beat, if competition is your strength, if the finish line is just a starting line to your next goal, then maybe your eyes have crossed paths with these words today for a purpose. I’m one of you. Impulsively, I am always thinking about what the future holds and - [What's Your Excuse? 4 Questions to Break to the Next Level!](https://valorieburton.com/whats-your-excuse-4-questions-to-break-to-the-next-level/) - What's the reason you have for not going for "it" - your most authentic dream? Whatever "it" is in your life or career, most people have a reason it hasn't happened yet. But if you look behind the reasons, you might just discover they could be reclassified as excuses. Now, I'm not trying to beat - [FREE recording of Goal Setters, Goal Getters!](https://valorieburton.com/free-recording-of-goal-setters-goal-getters/) - Goal Setters and Goal Getters was such a powerful call today! Did you join (over 600 registered!) us or did you miss it? Either way, I've got a GIFT for you: Download the recording here or use your phone to dial in and listen. Enjoy! Listen here (slide the bar forward to fast forward through - [Success is Right Under Your Nose!](https://valorieburton.com/success-is-right-under-your-nose-2/) - I feel led this week to give you a few words of inspiration about how your words can propel you to success rather than sabotage your efforts. Success often comes to those who know what to say, when to say it and how to say it. Those with talent, but don't communicate effectively often never - [Motivation Killers](https://valorieburton.com/motivation-killers-2/) - Have you ever joined a gym or bought the latest exercise video, only to lose motivation and quit altogether? If you're like most folks, you know what I mean. Your intentions are good, but the fiery motivation that gets you going eventually fizzles and you find yourself right back where you started - or worse. - [Trigger Your Happiness with this One Habit](https://valorieburton.com/trigger-your-happiness-with-this-one-habit/) - Around 2 o’clock this afternoon, after a day in the house doing laundry, sorting bills and writing, I stepped out on my back deck for a break. May is finally here. The April rain is gone. And I needed a fix for the vitamin D deficiency my doctor just told me I have. Take a - [It's Time to Make a Bold Decision!](https://valorieburton.com/its-time-to-make-a-bold-decision-2/) - I'm not sure who this message is for, but I felt a strong urge to write it, so since you're reading it, perhaps I wrote it just for you. It's short and sweet. Enjoy... A real sign of growing up spiritually and emotionally occurs when you stop making decisions based on everyone else's expectations. You - [Humility and the Right Place](https://valorieburton.com/humility-and-the-right-place/) - To say my first year of college was a humbling experience is an understatement. I went from a high school career good enough to get me into one of the toughest universities in the nation to spending an entire year on academic probation. I don’t mean “I got a D in one class” academic probation. - [Your Haters Don’t Hate … They Fear](https://valorieburton.com/your-haters-dont-hate-they-fear/) - “I have worked hard, I’ve stayed focused and I’ve been blessed,” a woman told me recently. “But my family is jealous. They make comments about how much easier my life is because I finished college and I have a good position with a great company. I used to feel guilty. I didn’t want to share - [How to Say "NO" in a Sticky Situation!](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-say-no-in-a-sticky-situation-2/) - Women are some of the busiest people around, but life taming your hectic schedule could be as easy as learning to say "no" more often. If your life sometimes feels overloaded, read on. I'll give you the script to speak up and stop taking on so much. The result? A happier, healthier you. Do you - [What Makes Time Fly For You?](https://valorieburton.com/what-makes-time-fly-for-you/) - When I was a child, I would beg my mother to drop me off at the library. I didn't really want her to go with me because for me, the world of books was an adventure. There was no telling what I might find on the next shelf! I didn't want to be limited by - [You Are What You Say You Are!](https://valorieburton.com/you-are-what-you-say-you-are-2/) - You've heard it many times: You are what you think. But thoughts often become words before they become actions. So it's safe to say this: You are also what you say. In fact, neuroscientists have now proven that just saying powerful words can make you more powerful. For example, when you lift a weight, saying - [Just for Laughs!](https://valorieburton.com/just-for-laughs/) - "A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." - Proverbs 17:22 If you were ever a Seinfeld fan, perhaps you remember the episode in which Jerry dates a woman and his friends point out to him that she never laughs. Instead, when Jerry says something funny, she just says - [My Lifelong Dream Has Come True](https://valorieburton.com/my-lifelong-dream-has-come-true/) - My lifelong dream has come true. Our lives have changed dramatically and beautifully in the last month. Since marrying my husband in 2013, I’ve been a “bonus” mom to two sweet, energetic, loving little girls. And now, God has seen fit to expand our family with a beautiful baby boy we’ve been privileged to adopt! - [Relax Your Self-Imposed Deadlines](https://valorieburton.com/relax-your-self-imposed-deadlines/) - As our family has recently expanded, so have our to-do lists. 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"If you feel led in - [Don't Go It Alone!](https://valorieburton.com/dont-go-alone-2/) - The most persistent fear I have repeatedly overcome is a fear of rejection. The irony of this people-pleasing fear is that it can manifest in a lot of behaviors, one of which is solitude. Without consciously connecting your fear with your choices, those whose core fear is rejection can make a habit of going it - [How to Transform Anxiety into Courage](https://valorieburton.com/transform-anxiety-courage/) - In what area of your life do you find yourself needing to move forward, but stuck in place and anxious about taking action? 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When you show up in a way that reflects who you want to be, you will begin to see shifts - [The Most Important Step to Getting Unstuck!](https://valorieburton.com/important-step-getting-unstuck-2/) - Why is it that we ignore the truth? Or even hide from it? You had an inkling that the person wasn't who they appeared to be, but you got involved anyway - now you feel stuck trying to get out of the relationship. You knew instinctively it was not time to buy that thing you - [Underestimating Yourself is Undermining Your Goals](https://valorieburton.com/underestimating-undermining-goals/) - You are Capable of Far More than You Know. Have you ever doubted your performance – in a job interview or on a project – only to have others perceive it as much better than you did? Have you ever talked yourself out of an opportunity? You wanted the job, but deep down you doubted - [FREE webinar October 30th to celebrate launch of New Book](https://valorieburton.com/free-webinar-october-30th-celebrate-launch-new-book/) - When you order my new book, Successful Women Speak Differently, you get FREE access to my powerful, live webinar this Sunday, October 30th at 4 pm Eastern! I am so excited to share with you the practical, yet life-changing strategies in the book, so I hope you'll join me. For details on getting the book - [One Thing You Need More than Talent and Effort](https://valorieburton.com/one-thing-need-talent-effort/) - In the 17 years that I have been a writer, speaker and coach helping others be successful and live more fulfilling lives, there is a piece of the success puzzle I’ve noticed gets overlooked far too often. By the time I hear the story from a reader or audience member, client or coaching student, it - [Is It Time To Brighten Your Light?](https://valorieburton.com/time-brighten-light/) - "... Let your light shine before [others], that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven." -- Matthew 5:16 This week, I would like to remind you of one of your most important "divine assignments" - being a light that draws people closer to God. No matter what your purpose in - [How is someone's life better because they crossed your path?](https://valorieburton.com/someones-life-better-crossed-path/) - Why are you here? I don't mean why are you here reading this message right now. Instead, why are you here on this planet at this time, born into the family you were born into, with your unique gifts and talents, with your experiences? There is indeed a reason you are here. It's your purpose. - [Thanksgiving Gratitude!](https://valorieburton.com/thanksgiving-gratitude-2/) - “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” – Oprah Winfrey What are you most thankful for this Thanksgiving? 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A reaction is based purely in - [3 Reasons to Get Your Certification](https://valorieburton.com/3-reasons-get-certification/) - [Powerful Year-End Questions You Need to Ask](https://valorieburton.com/powerful-year-end-questions-need-ask/) - Can you believe it is mid-December already? Christmas is just two weeks away, and in three weeks, it’ll be a New Year altogether? The more years go by, it seems the faster they fly. And I used to think it was just me – recovering overachiever that I am – who always felt at the - [Ask Yourself This ONE QUESTION Before Christmas](https://valorieburton.com/one-question-need-ask-christmas/) - NEW VIDEO NEWSLETTER I’m trying something new! A video version of the newsletter. The written version is below, but click on the video so I can talk to you directly about this week’s topic! And please share with your friends and colleagues on social media. Enjoy! We’ve got just one week until Christmas. I was - [The Most Important Gift You Can Unwrap this Year](https://valorieburton.com/important-gift-can-unwrap-year/) - There is a gift that isn’t wrapped neatly under the tree on Christmas morning. Its cost requires more than the money in your wallet. No one hands it to you. This is a gift you give yourself. It only takes a few minutes and there is nothing more valuable than this. I don’t know what - [Want to Set Authentic Goals? Start Here](https://valorieburton.com/want-set-authentic-goals-start/) - Happy New Year! If you are anything like me, you’ve been thinking about what you want for this New Year. It is easy to set goals, but it’s hard to reach them – unless you set authentic goals. Authentic goals speak to your heart. They excite you. There is a meaningful purpose to them. If - [What to Say When You're Afraid to Say "No"](https://valorieburton.com/say-youre-afraid-say-no-2/) - Do you ever struggle with saying “no”? 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From the first time I saw the movie 30 years ago until now, the words have always resonated with me. It’s the scene in which Miss - [WHAT TO DO When Your "What if?" Questions Start Making You Feel Anxious](https://valorieburton.com/questions-start-making-feel-anxious/) - Twenty years ago this week, I stepped out in faith to do something I’d dreamed about since elementary school: I became a full-time business owner. I had just turned 24. I had less than two years of full-time work experience. And I’d never worked for a public relations firm. Despite those facts, I made the - [How to Deal with Narcissists, Guilt-Trippers and Manipulators](https://valorieburton.com/deal-narcissists-guilt-trippers-manipulators/) - Have you ever had someone say something so upsetting to you that you found yourself quickly ticking off a list of counterarguments to dispute their assertions? You fuss aloud as though they are there, practicing what you are going to say – or what you should have said. You get sucked into rehashing the conversation, - [Three Questions to Ask Before You Say "I DO"](https://valorieburton.com/three-questions-ask-say/) - Thinking about getting engaged? Daydreaming about saying “I do”? There are lots of questions to ask before you make a lifelong commitment, but here are three critical ones. Before you say “I do” to a potential spouse, make sure you can say “I do” to these… If this person never changed, could you be content - [7 Powerful Questions to Boost Your Chance of Achieving ANY Goal:](https://valorieburton.com/7-coaching-questions-boost-chance-achieving-goal/) - We are halfway through the year already and it is a perfect time to check in on your goals and make adjustments that can empower you to make this year an especially powerful one. By asking the right questions, you can coach yourself. These seven questions, based on research from the field of applied positive - [Mid-Year Check Up: 4 Questions to Measure Your Progress](https://valorieburton.com/mid-year-check-4-questions-measure-progress/) - Can you believe we are already half way through the year? It is the perfect time to check in with yourself – celebrate your accomplishments thus far and get back on track if you’ve been distracted. Here are four powerful coaching questions to ask as you head into the second half of this year: - [What if? The question to dream your best dreams …](https://valorieburton.com/question-dream-best-dreams/) - At the beginning of this year, I identified a one-word theme for the year: Margin. It may not sound like the most exciting word, but I just sensed in my spirit that it was a word that could transform my life. Margin is breathing room. Whether in your schedule or in your closet, it is - [3 Signs You Have Goal Fatigue](https://valorieburton.com/3-signs-goal-fatigue/) - When I first heard the phrase, it resonated immediately: Goal fatigue. It occurs when we either have too many goals at once, or when we don’t replenish our energy between goals. It will sabotage your best efforts, steal your joy and leave you confused about why you no longer feel motivated to go for what - [Tell-Tale Signs You Have “Decision Fatigue” and What to Do About It](https://valorieburton.com/tell-tale-signs-decision-fatigue/) - Do you ever feel drained by the very thought of making another decision? There’s a name for the depletion of energy that comes from weighing and making constant decisions: Decision fatigue. It can be caused by having a lot of responsibilities and a lot of opportunities. “Do I take the job offer, or stay put? - [Are you over-responsible? 6 Signs You Have an Unhealthy Sense of Responsibility](https://valorieburton.com/responsible-6-signs-unhealthy-sense-responsibility/) - Taking responsibility is the hallmark of a successful leader. Whether managing people, managing a workload, or managing a household, not much gets done if you don’t take ownership of the tasks that need to get done day to day. But what happens when you don’t just take responsibility for your tasks, but for other people’s - [When to Persevere and When to Let Go](https://valorieburton.com/key-distinction-persevere-let-go/) - Several years ago, as I was mulling over a decision that had been weighing heavily on me, I stumbled across a scripture I’d seen many times. But for some reason, on this occasion, the words took on new meaning that day: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give - [4 Key Questions to Conquer Your Biggest Challenge](https://valorieburton.com/key-questions-will-help-conquer-biggest-challenge/) - It’s easy not to notice, but all day long you are asking yourself questions. And the types of questions you ask dictate how you feel and what actions you will take. Ultimately, when you find yourself facing a challenge and trying to overcome it, the most important thing you can do is ask yourself questions - [Choose Progress Over Perfection](https://valorieburton.com/choose-progress-perfection/) - When I started researching about the subject of confidence for my latest book Successful Women Speak Differently, I ran across an intriguing statistic: Perfectionism is mostly a women’s issue. And it causes us to hesitate when it’s time to move forward. We too often believe we are not yet “ready,” so we hold out on taking - [4 Ways to Bounce Back from Rejection](https://valorieburton.com/4-ways-bounce-back-rejection/) - Fear of hearing the word “no” can tempt you to keep your ideas to yourself, hold back from asking for what you want and lead to living in regret. One of the hallmarks of resilience is that it isn’t what happens to you that most determines your resilience, but what you say to yourself about - [How to Finally Have the Conversation You've Been Avoiding](https://valorieburton.com/finally-conversation-youve-avoiding/) - You know that conversation you need to have? The one you’ve been putting off because you know it will cause a conflict, and the very thought of it sends a pang of anxiety to the pit of your stomach? Whether it is the co-worker who talks so loudly on the phone that it breaks your - [How to Be More Productive and Less Busy](https://valorieburton.com/productive-less-busy/) - We wear busyness like a badge of honor: “How are you doing?” “Oh, I’m busy.” But why is “busy” a label you would want? Busy just means occupied. Doing stuff. Some of it purposeful. Some of it not. Some of it necessary. Some of it simply out of habit. If you find yourself regularly telling - [Will This Matter A Year From Now?](https://valorieburton.com/will-matter-year-now/) - One of my favorite coaching questions for deciding whether a battle is worth fighting is simple. Will this matter a year from now? If the answer is no, let it go. Without noticing the fruitlessness of a particular battle, you can spend your time worrying or fighting for things that simply do not deserve your - [Can Money Buy Happiness?](https://valorieburton.com/can-money-buy-happiness/) - It’s the age-old question: Can money buy happiness? In theory, we know the answer is “no.” Yet, many pursue it in great expectation that when they finally get enough of it, they’ll be happy. If you get the bigger house, the right car, the right salary, then you can kick up your heels and revel - [How to Make Your Goals Stick](https://valorieburton.com/make-goals-stick/) - We all know that goals are important, but how do you make your goals stick? Research about goal setting says that your goals need to be rooted in what you really value. In order to persevere in the face of disappointments and obstacles, it needs to be centered on what really matters to you. There - [The Key to Getting to the Next Level](https://valorieburton.com/key-getting-next-level/) - The first step to getting unstuck is telling yourself the truth. Most people never make it to that step. The truth isn’t always flattering. And we don’t always know what to do with it. But here’s the reality: The truth is the only thing that will empower you to breakthrough to your highest potential. Whether - [The Powerful Question that Can Unlock a Breakthrough](https://valorieburton.com/powerful-question-can-unlock-breakthrough/) - A woman told me about her frustration in a relationship she’d hoped would lead to marriage. As we spoke and talked through options for getting the relationship to a better place, I sensed there was something she wasn’t saying – something that would shift our conversation and help her break through to the answers she - [Is this really necessary right now?](https://valorieburton.com/really-necessary-right-now/) - My New Book, Brave Enough to Succeed: 40 Strategies for Getting Unstuck will be out November 1st! This is a re-release of my popular book Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable. Get a FREE online workshop valued at over $125 when you order the book before November 1st. Do you ever have a habit of doing too much? You casually - [Are You Really Ready for a Career Change?](https://valorieburton.com/really-ready-career-change/) - Learn to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want. Jim Rohn Point to Ponder: It’s worth aiming for a job with a quick and simple commute. Having one will boost your happiness. One of the most common reasons clients come to a coach is to figure out - [What's Your Takeaway?](https://valorieburton.com/whats-your-takeaway/) - What works for coaches coaching their clients can also work for you. Here’s what I mean. When faced with a challenge, it can be easy to find a solution and yet not grasp the greater lesson that could apply to new situations that arise in the future. By taking just a few moments to reflect, - [Who Is Your Wise Friend?](https://valorieburton.com/who-is-your-wise-friend/) - In what situation in your life do you need an answer to a dilemma, but don’t quite know what the answer is? Perhaps there’s a step you need to take or a conversation you need to have, but you’re stuck. Perhaps you don’t have the confidence to do it or you just don’t feel strong - [Bestselling author Valorie Burton delivers opening keynote at Microsoft Leadership Conference](https://valorieburton.com/bestselling-author-valorie-burton-delivers-opening-keynote-microsoft-leadership-conference/) - [November 2, 2017 – Fargo, ND] Bestselling author Valorie Burton delivered the opening keynote message at the Microsoft Leadership Conference in Fargo, ND. Speaking to more than 200 employees on the research-based habits from her book Successful Women Think Differently, the message inspired and equipped attendees with practical ideas for building resilience, positive emotion and - [Valorie Burton speaks at Sisters of Africa at Rivers Church in Johannesburg, South Africa](https://valorieburton.com/valorie-burton-speaks-sisters-africa-rivers-church-johannesburg-south-africa/) - [September 9, 2017 – Sandton, South Africa] – Valorie Burton joined visionary Pastor Wilma Olivier and international bestselling authors Michelle McKinney Hammond of Ghana and Holly Wagner of Los Angeles for the powerful Sisters of Africa conference at Rivers Church in Sandton, South Africa. More than 3,000 women gathered each day of the three-day conference, - [Brave Enough to Succeed: 40 Strategies for Getting Unstuck](https://valorieburton.com/brave-enough-succeed-40-strategies-getting-unstuck/) - Atlanta, GA: We regularly hear the anthem, “follow your dreams,” but many people find themselves getting “stuck” in their pursuit of their dreams, goals, personal life, or career. Life coach and author VALORIE BURTON, founder of the Coaching and Positive Psychology (CaPP) Institute who is one of small number of people in the world with - [Valorie Burton’s 12-city Speaking Tour includes South Africa, Atlanta, Orlando and Washington, DC in Fall 2017](https://valorieburton.com/valorie-burtons-12-city-speaking-tour-includes-south-africa-atlanta-orlando-washington-dc-fall-2017/) - [September 4, 2017 – Atlanta, GA] – Bestselling author Valorie Burton, founder of the Coaching and Positive Psychology (CaPP) Institute, will speak in 12 cities this fall, seven of which are open to the public, bringing her message of resilience, confidence and happiness to thousands across the US and internationally. Ms. Burton will speak at - [Improve Your Relationship Instantly with Two Powerful Questions](https://valorieburton.com/improve-relationship-instantly-two-powerful-questions/) - What makes you feel loved and cared for by your spouse or significant other? Maybe it’s a mid-day phone call to check in and see how you’re doing. Or surprising you with a little gift from your favorite store. Or helping you finish that household project you’ve been procrastinating on and just needed some encouragement - [The One Decision That Frees You to Forgive](https://valorieburton.com/one-decision-frees-forgive/) - We can’t be happy without our relationships. And it is inevitable in relationships that you eventually find yourself in a position that calls for forgiveness. I want you to think for a moment about a relationship in which you are struggling to forgive, and consider the words you’re reading right now to be written just - [5 Questions to Ask a Mentor](https://valorieburton.com/6709/) - One of the most common questions I get from those looking to advance their career or business is, “How do I find a mentor?” We’re all looking for someone who’s been there, done that to walk with us along our path, steady us when we stumble, and offer a wise voice of experience in times - [4 Questions to Conquer Excuses](https://valorieburton.com/4-questions-conquer-excuses/) - What’s the reason you have for not pursuing your most authentic dream? Whatever this dream is, in your life or career, you probably have a reason it hasn’t happened yet. But if you look behind the reasons, you might just discover that they could be reclassified as excuses—thoughts you are embracing that sabotage your dreams. - [Rein in Your Perfectionism](https://valorieburton.com/rein-in-your-perfectionism/) - Do you keep putting off goals because the timing just isn’t right? Is it difficult to complete any project because you’re still putting the finishing touches on it? Do your family and coworkers accuse you of being impossible to please? You know where this is going. You’re a perfectionist. In a coy sort of - [A Week of Gratitude](https://valorieburton.com/a-week-of-gratitude/) - There are so many interesting positive psychology exercises that I love to do, but one of my favorites is the three blessings exercise. It is so simple to do on an everyday basis, and it actually has health benefits. So here’s what you do. Before you go to sleep, take out a journal, a piece - [How to Set Boundaries in an Uncomfortable Conversation](https://valorieburton.com/set-boundaries-uncomfortable-conversation/) - If respect is derived from a shared understanding and honor between two people for what’s acceptable and what isn’t, then at its core, respect is about setting strong, good boundaries. That means first being clear about what’s okay and what isn’t. Then it means communicating those boundaries clearly. When someone crosses your boundaries, the - [What to Do When Your Fears Cause Doubt](https://valorieburton.com/fears-cause-doubt/) - Fear. It creeps up on us, often without a sound. It asks, "What if everything goes wrong?" "What if I fail?" "What if I never get what I want?" And disastrous answers to those questions can send us down a path of negative thinking that spirals out of control. Psychologists call it "catastrophizing." 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Maybe it’s a job loss or a relationship, or an opportunity you - [What to Do When Emotions Keep Ruling Your Decisions](https://valorieburton.com/emotions-keep-ruling-decisions/) - Making an important decision at the height of an emotional state – whether angry or ecstatic, frustrated or giddy – can lead to decisions you regret. Emotions are powerful. Sometimes positive, sometimes negative, but they always have the power to move you to action. When emotions are uncomfortable – like fear or anger or frustration - [4 Questions to Get Some Clarity](https://valorieburton.com/4-questions-get-clarity/) - One morning a few years ago, I turned out of my neighborhood to head to my office and was startled by what appeared to be a cloud of smoke across a wide swath of gray sky. The tall buildings that normally tower over the nearby streets were nowhere to be seen. It was a bit - [Take These 5 Steps to Sound More Confident](https://valorieburton.com/take-5-steps-sound-confident/) - One of the core principles of my book, Successful Women Think Differently, is the understanding that your thoughts create your actions. If you become aware of what you are saying to yourself about your situation, you can consciously decide if the thought is moving you toward your goals or farther away. But your thoughts don’t - [Shift from “Have to” to “Get to”](https://valorieburton.com/shift-from-have-to-to-get-to/) - Two of my favorite happiness triggers are anticipation and gratitude. Anticipation is having something to look forward to, and gratitude is being thankful for what you have. Combine the two, and it has the power to immediately shift your attitude from one of overwhelm and burden to awe and energy. And I’ve found a very - [One Question That Shifts You From Problem to Solution](https://valorieburton.com/one-question-shifts-problem-solution/) - What has frustrated you lately? What have you found annoying and talked about it to pretty much anyone who’d listen? It is so tempting to ruminate on negative events in our lives. It can be easy to get stuck in a loop of talking about what you don’t like. Whether something professional or personal, there’s - [4 Questions to Get Unstuck from Analysis Paralysis](https://valorieburton.com/4-questions-get-unstuck-analysis-paralysis/) - Have you ever felt just absolutely stuck because you have so many ideas, and you don’t know which one to move forward with first? I get this question a lot. Maybe there is something new you want to try or business you want to start – and you have a ton of ideas, but don’t - [Who Will I Have to Become?](https://valorieburton.com/who-will-i-have-to-become/) - You know that really big goal that you want to accomplish? The one you can’t stop thinking about – that dream you wholeheartedly want and sometimes even wonder how you can possibly achieve it? There is a powerful question that helped me lay the groundwork to accomplish some of my biggest goals – and I’ve - [What One Small Step Would Help You Make Progress?](https://valorieburton.com/one-small-step-help-make-progress/) - Do you feel overwhelmed or that you’re procrastinating on something that you know you need to do? Many of us get overwhelmed because we don’t break our projects or tasks down into small enough pieces. There’s actually research around this and I have a very powerful, simple question you can ask yourself to coach yourself - [7 Ways to Savor the Season](https://valorieburton.com/7-ways-savor-season/) - The holidays can go by very quickly, and if you’re not intentional, it’s easy not to make the most of the season. Research shows that “savoring,” intentionally living in the moment and noticing good things as they happen, creates positive emotion that can improve your health, happiness and relationships. So this year, savor the season! - [Resistance Means That There's Something There!](https://valorieburton.com/resistance-means-theres-something-2/) - A while back I hired a new coach, presumably to help me navigate the multiple transitions I'd made, and to get clarity of my vision moving forward. Several times, I hung up with my business coach feeling - to be blunt - a little peeved. I found myself pushing back on his tough questions because, - [Three Strategies for Less Stress, and More Meaning this Holiday Season!](https://valorieburton.com/three-strategies-less-stress-meaning-holiday-season/) - With Christmas fast approaching, many people are feeling stressed by the expectations, shopping and obligations that come with the holiday season. While it's important to give of yourself, it's equally important to engage in some extra "self-care" during the holiday season. A variety of issues cause stress during the holidays, including overspending, social obligations (parties, - [Ask Yourself These Three Questions Before The Year Ends](https://valorieburton.com/ask-three-questions-year-ends/) - I pray this Christmas will be blessed, joyful and peaceful for you. As we celebrate the birth of Jesus, please remember the reason for the season! We are near the end of another year and I thought this would be a great time to pose three important questions for you. We become wiser when we - [What Do You Need to Leave Behind?](https://valorieburton.com/need-leave-behind/) - In preparation for a New Year, I invite you to start 2018 by leaving some things behind. I challenge and encourage you each week to take steps toward your vision, to dream a bigger dream, listen to your life, and focus on what’s truly important to you. To do that, you must first ensure that - [What's Your Purpose? Pinpoint Your Purpose with this One Question](https://valorieburton.com/whats-purpose-pinpoint-purpose-one-question/) - There’s a scene from my favorite movie. I got to see that scene on the live stage when we attended The Color Purple on Broadway. From the first time I saw the movie 30 years ago until now, the words have always resonated with me. It’s the scene in which Miss Celie finally musters the - [SPECIAL EDITION: Valorie's Today Show Advice for Getting to Your Goals](https://valorieburton.com/special-edition-valories-today-show-advice-getting-goals/) - Reaching goals isn’t just about knowing what steps to take. It’s also about how you handle discouragement, fear and stumbles on the way to goal. Research shows that the most successful people actually think differently on the path to success – and that mental toughness helps them to be resilient in the face of frustrations - [What Are You Putting Off?](https://valorieburton.com/what-are-you-putting-off-procrastination/) - What have you been putting off? Almost all of us delay necessary actions from time to time. I’m convinced that procrastination is one of the biggest causes of stress in our lives. There is something in your life that you know needs to get done. Often, it’s not even something difficult. But you’ve made it - [Instead of Being Happy When, Will You be Happy While?](https://valorieburton.com/instead-happy-will-happy/) - It’s an art to remain content with where you are while you’re on the way to something better. Do you feel worn out as you race toward the finish line of a goal? We hear the cliché all the time: “It’s about the journey, not the destination.” But living out the cliché can be a - [What are you tolerating?](https://valorieburton.com/tolerations/) - What exists in your life right now that isn't quite the way you'd like it to be? You know, those things you put up with that you've been meaning to fix, but haven't? Perhaps it's the clutter piled up in your office or bedroom or your car. Maybe it's the oil that needs to be - [Want a better relationship? Prioritize Positivity](https://valorieburton.com/want-better-relationship-prioritize-positivity/) - What does it take to be happy together? Finding someone with whom you can be yourself, share a common vision, and where there is a mutual respect and love is foundational. But once you’re in a relationship – and stress, busy schedules and the demands of life set in – it is important to be - [What lesson is life offering you right now?](https://valorieburton.com/lesson-life-offering-right-now-2/) - I challenge you to consider the lessons your life is offering you right now. I say offering because God offers lessons, but it is up to us to learn from them. If we don’t learn, the same lessons will be offered again and again. Through both frustrations and exciting times, there is something for you - [In What Way is it Time to Stretch Yourself?](https://valorieburton.com/way-time-stretch/) - When you stretch outside your comfort zone, don’t be surprised when you feel uncomfortable. The longer you stay in that new zone, the more comfortable you will become. Valorie Burton As you begin to make changes in your life, don’t burden yourself with a long list of goals. Instead, get inspired. Set a goal that - [What Is the Most Important Question you Need to Answer In Your Life Today?](https://valorieburton.com/important-question-need-answer-life-today/) - One of the reasons so many people can’t find the answers they need for the challenges they face is that they ask themselves the wrong questions—or never bother to ask questions at all. As a professional life coach, my primary job is to ask the right questions. I ask the kinds of questions that shift - [What Could It Mean That Your Answer Hasn't Come Yet?](https://valorieburton.com/what-could-it-mean-that-your-answer-hasnt-come-yet/) - “I hate not knowing,” a friend complained as she tried to figure out some steps to take personally and professionally. “I’m used to having a game plan, but right now I feel stuck because I honestly don’t know what the right answer is. I want to plan the next stage of my life—and somehow, I - [Who Are You Really?](https://valorieburton.com/who-are-you-really/) - Be yourself. Everyone else is taken. Oscar Wilde In recent conversations, the theme “be yourself” has come up several times. And when themes emerge, I always like to seek the lesson for myself and eventually share it. If you feel like sometimes you struggle with saying what you mean, doing what you love, or relaxing - [Is it time to stop trying to figure it out?](https://valorieburton.com/is-it-time-to-stop-trying-to-figure-it-out/) - My mother loves to tell the story that when I was two years old, I taught myself how to tie my shoes. I’d asked her several times to teach me. Although she said she’d teach me when I got bigger, I insisted that she show me how to do it. So, she did. One afternoon - [Joy Comes in the Morning!](https://valorieburton.com/joy-comes-in-the-morning-2/) - Years ago, I visited Colorado Springs for a speaking engagement and a few meetings. A friend picked me up at the airport, and took me to dinner. We then headed to Glen Eyrie Castle and Conference Center, where I'd be staying during my trip. Before arriving, I had received a generous invitation from a staff - [Is it time for a break?](https://valorieburton.com/is-it-time-for-a-break/) - Do you need a break? Many of us do, but the real question is whether or not you’ll take time for one. Those of us alive today are living at a faster pace than any human beings who’ve ever walked the planet. Advertisers tell us our tech gadgets will save us time, but as quickly - [This Isn't the Way You Planned It](https://valorieburton.com/this-isnt-the-way-you-planned-it/) - Do you ever feel like life just isn’t going the way you planned it? Perhaps you find yourself on the verge of giving up on a dream. Your job search seems fruitless. A relationship keeps hitting a brick wall. You get a little extra money, and then an unexpected expense saps the money as quickly - [What's Your PR Strategy?](https://valorieburton.com/whats-your-pr-strategy/) - Celebrities and huge companies aren’t the only ones who benefit from a good public relations campaign. Smart workers and business owners employ a public relations strategy of their own. Do you have one? Good PR will help you develop and grow relationships, gain more influence on the job, and land on your feet quickly should - [How would it feel to work less?](https://valorieburton.com/how-would-it-feel-to-work-less/) - Work to live. Don’t live to work. Valorie Burton Point to Ponder: Happier people are more productive, thereby getting more work done in less time than others. Imagine for a moment what it would feel like to work less—if you could focus more on your family and other things that matter in your life. Work - [Will You Let Go of the Old to Make Room for the New?](https://valorieburton.com/will-you-let-go-of-the-old-to-make-room-for-the-new/) - When I bought my first place back in the 90s, I decided to replace the handles on every cabinet and drawer in the kitchen and the bathrooms. I went to a hardware store and picked out new handles, unscrewed all the old ones, and replaced them with the shiny, new modern ones. Then I did - [Fan Favorite: Pinpoint Your Life Purpose with the One Question](https://valorieburton.com/fan-favorite-pinpoint-your-life-purpose-with-the-one-question/) - There’s a scene from my favorite movie. I got to see that scene on the live stage when we attended The Color Purple on Broadway. From the first time I saw the movie 30 years ago until now, the words have always resonated with me. It’s the scene in which Miss Celie finally musters the - [Should You Give Up or Get Up](https://valorieburton.com/should-you-give-up-or-get-up/) - Is there a goal you’ve set, but haven’t really made much progress on lately? If you’re like many people, the answer is yes. Whether it’s a New Year’s resolution you set and forgot about or a dream that just feels too hard to hold on to, it can be tempting to give up at times. - [Is Your Busyness Based In Fear?](https://valorieburton.com/is-your-busyness-based-in-fear/) - When you say yes to things that are not purposeful for you, you are essentially saying no to your real priorities. What is it about saying no that makes some of us so anxious? Many people overload their schedules simply because they are too concerned with what others think. Saying no is simple, really: “No, - [What bold decision is it time to make?](https://valorieburton.com/what-bold-decision-is-it-time-to-make/) - A real sign of spiritual and emotional growth occurs when you stop making decisions based on everyone else’s expectations. You end unhealthy relationships, take a leap of faith toward a new career path, or speak up for what is right. Some decisions in life are tough. Some conversations are uncomfortable. Some choices will not be - [Is Impatience Sabotaging Your Potential?](https://valorieburton.com/is-impatience-sabotaging-your-potential/) - Point to Ponder: Patience can be developed with practice. What goal or desire are you rushing toward? What is it that you just can’t wait to see unfold in your life? It often seems the thing we want most can take the longest to manifest. And while we’re waiting, it can be tempting to try - [How to Deal with Narcissists, Guilt-Trippers and Manipulators](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-deal-with-narcissists-guilt-trippers-and-manipulators-2/) - Have you ever had someone say something so upsetting to you that you found yourself quickly ticking off a list of counterarguments to dispute their assertions? You fuss aloud as though they are there, practicing what you are going to say – or what you should have said. You get sucked into rehashing the conversation, ruminating about - [What dream do you need to resurrect?](https://valorieburton.com/what-dream-do-you-need-to-resurrect/) - Point to Ponder: You are the only person who can decide to pursue your dream. Books don’t write themselves. Businesses don’t launch themselves. You’ve got to take the first step and keep stepping. What dream have you postponed? What idea has been sitting on the shelf collecting dust? What hope or vision has been left - [In what way do you need to speak up?](https://valorieburton.com/in-what-way-do-you-need-to-speak-up/) - Point to Ponder: One of the most common traits of effective leaders is their ability to effectively communicate in any situation. While interning for a minor league sports team during graduate school, I heard rumblings one afternoon that civil rights icon Rosa Parks was in the building. Our offices were in the civic center, and - [[FAN FAVORITE]: Stop Staring at the Closed Door](https://valorieburton.com/stop-staring-at-the-closed-door/) - “When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” –Alexander Graham Bell What door has recently closed in your life? Maybe it’s a job loss or a relationship, or an opportunity you - [Is it time to stop complaining and solve the problem?](https://valorieburton.com/is-it-time-to-stop-complaining/) - Do everything without grumbling or arguing. Philippians 2:14 Point to Ponder: When problems arise, resilient people determine what is within their control to fix and go about the business of fixing it. Perhaps the change that’s nudging you isn’t about a new career, a new relationship, or a new home. It may not be a - [Are you an emotional spender?](https://valorieburton.com/are-you-an-emotional-spender/) - The number-one problem in today’s generation and economy is the lack of financial literacy. Alan Greenspan Even when times may be tough financially, some of us still don’t have a handle on our spending. It’s not for lack of knowledge. Often, it’s a struggle with self-control. You went to the mall to buy a birthday - [[FAN FAVORITE]: What to Do When Your Emotions Keep Ruling Your Decisions](https://valorieburton.com/what-to-do-when-your-emotions-keep-ruling-your-decisions/) - I'm really excited about my next book. I've been working really hard on it and just finished the draft this week! You may have noticed that I haven't been on social media as much and we've even shared some of our fan favorite newsletters, which we're doing again this week as I've been focused on - [Will you give yourself permission to make a change?](https://valorieburton.com/will-you-give-yourself-permission-to-change/) - Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. Maria Robinson During a radio interview, a caller in her forties asked me if it was too late to change careers and pursue something she was more passionate about. “It’s never too late,” I told her. - [How resilient are you?](https://valorieburton.com/how-resilient-are-you/) - Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure. Napoleon Hill In the face of downsizing, outsourcing, and higher demands on your productivity, would your employer call you resilient? Resilience is a skill more and more companies are looking for in their employees—people who can embrace change rather than - [What is your procrastination telling you?](https://valorieburton.com/what-is-your-procrastination-telling-you/) - For a dream comes through much activity, and a fool’s voice is known by his many words. Ecclesiastes 5:3 NKJV In my struggles as a recovering procrastinator, I have learned a simple lesson: You can look extremely productive while producing not much of anything. In the name of planning, we procrastinate. We analyze, plan, research, - [Rather than Complaining, Ask this Powerful Question](https://valorieburton.com/rather-than-complaining-ask-this-powerful-question/) - All of us get stuck from time to time. Whether a relationship problem, work challenges, financial habit or health dilemma, inevitably on the path to our goals, something gets in our way. As a personal and executive coach for over 15 years, there is one tool I’ve discovered can help you get unstuck again and - [What really matters right now?](https://valorieburton.com/what-really-matters-right-now/) - All of us get stuck from time to time. Whether a relationship problem, work challenge, financial habit or health dilemma, inevitably on the path to our goals, something gets in our way. As a personal and executive coach for over 15 years, there is one tool I’ve discovered can help you get unstuck again and - [What are you afraid will happen? What if that happens?](https://valorieburton.com/what-are-you-afraid-will-happen-what-if-that-happens/) - All of us get stuck from time to time. Whether a relationship problem, work challenge, financial habit or health dilemma, inevitably on the path to our goals, something gets in our way. As a personal and executive coach for over 15 years, there is one tool I’ve discovered can help you get unstuck again and - [What message is being offered in this situation?](https://valorieburton.com/what-message-is-being-offered-in-this-situation/) - All of us get stuck from time to time. Whether a relationship problem, work challenges, financial habit or health dilemma, inevitably on the path to our goals, something gets in our way. As a personal and executive coach for over 15 years, there is one tool I’ve discovered can help you get unstuck again and - [What will you do differently next time?](https://valorieburton.com/what-will-you-do-differently-next-time/) - All of us get stuck from time to time. Whether a relationship problem, work challenge, financial habit or health dilemma, inevitably on the path to our goals, something gets in our way. As a personal and executive coach for over 15 years, there is one tool I’ve discovered can help you get unstuck again and - [The Key to Reaching Any Big Goal](https://valorieburton.com/the-key-to-reaching-any-big-goal/) - What would you have to give up in order to have what you want? Most of us have dreams, but why is it that so few actually achieve them? Without realizing it, many of us underestimate the effort it takes to get to a big goal. As a result, it can be really easy to - [Go Ahead, Cheat a Little](https://valorieburton.com/go-ahead-cheat-a-little/) - I was coaching someone recently who beat herself up for veering from her financial plan. She’d done a great job for a couple of years and paid off all of her credit cards, but recently slid back into some old habits that prevented her from reaching her next goal: Saving money. As she described her - [How to stop losing your cool with difficult people](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-stop-losing-your-cool-with-difficult-people/) - Are there some people in your life that just push your buttons? They know exactly what to say to make you lose your cool, fly off the handle, and say things you didn’t mean to say. Most of us have people in our lives that do that, whether it’s a co-worker or a personal relationship. - [Shift your entire mood with this one question](https://valorieburton.com/shift-your-entire-mood-with-this-one-question/) - What problem is most frustrating for you right now? Most of us encounter problems every single day. If we’re not intentional, it can be easy to slip into a habit of putting more energy into complaining about problems than solving them. If it’s at work, you might rehash it with coworkers, point fingers of blame - [You are as happy as your relationships.](https://valorieburton.com/you-are-as-happy-as-your-relationships/) - “I choose relationships wisely and nurture them intentionally.” Most people are as happy as their relationships. Think about it. When there is turmoil in your relationships, it impacts your whole life. That is why it is so important to choose your relationships well and then invest your energy maintaining them. Even in the relationships, you - [One Decision Every Successful Woman Makes](https://valorieburton.com/one-decision-every-successful-woman-makes/) - Fearless. It’s a word that gets used a lot. We are told to be fearless. We hold it up as an ideal to aim for. But fearlessness is a myth. If you want to succeed, if you want to live a more fulfilling life, you don’t need to be fearless. You need to be brave. - [Don’t Downsize Your Dream](https://valorieburton.com/dont-downsize-your-dream/) - Most people downsize their dreams out of fear. Fear of criticism. Fear of failure. Fear of success and doubts about whether they can keep it up. It can feel risky to dream big. The truth is, the real risk is living small. It’s getting to the end of your life and realizing so much more - [The Most Important Step to Bring Your Vision to Life](https://valorieburton.com/the-most-important-step-to-bring-your-vision-to-life/) - Before we enter the New Year and before you decide what you want in 2019, I encourage you to pause and clarify the most important piece of information you need in order to persevere to your goals. Take a look … I’ll never forget the feeling years ago when I was in public relations and - [Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.](https://valorieburton.com/be-yourself-everyone-else-is-taken/) - It is easy to look at others and feel as though somehow you don’t measure up – as though what you’re doing, what you have or how you look are not “enough.” Whether it is something that happened in your past that you believe disqualifies you from a great future or something you feel you - [Seven Key Decisions Every Successful Woman Makes](https://valorieburton.com/seven-key-decisions-every-successful-woman-makes/) - Over the last seven weeks, I’ve shared seven key decision every successful woman makes – women, like you, who don’t want to look back ten or twenty years from now with regret. They are simple, but profound choices about your thought process: Seven Key Decisions: 1. I do not downsize my dreams. 2. I focus - [[FAN FAVORITE!!!] Could you turn your passion into profit?](https://valorieburton.com/could-you-turn-your-passion-into-profit/) - Point to Ponder: Doing work you love has a significant impact on your well-being. “Do what you love, Val, and the rewards will come.” This was a piece of advice given to me by one of my mentors not long after I first began working. I was intrigued yet skeptical when he said it. If - [[FAN FAVORITE!!!] What would financial freedom look like for you?](https://valorieburton.com/what-would-financial-freedom-look-like-for-you/) - Point to Ponder: You need a vision for your finances just as you need a vision for your life. Get clear. Write it down. Then start walking toward it. In a culture that often equates wealth with materialism, it’s no wonder debt is out of control and savings are low. Answer these questions for yourself: - [[FAN FAVORITE!!!] How bright is your light?](https://valorieburton.com/how-bright-is-your-light-faith-happiness/) - Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. – Matthew 5:16 Point to Ponder: Happiness is derived from helping others, making a difference, and serving the world in your own unique way. No matter what your purpose in life, this is an underlying mission: - [In What Way do You Need to be Unconventional?](https://valorieburton.com/in-what-way-do-you-need-to-be-unconventional/) - Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. - Helen Keller Some of the wisest decisions you can make are counterintuitive. In the process of living, it can be easy to do what it seems has always been done—to follow the path well-traveled. But if you stop for a moment and listen to the whispers - [Self-Care Mindset](https://valorieburton.com/self-care-mindset/) - This time of year, in the middle of the holiday hustle and bustle, it can be easy to forget to care for yourself. I want to challenge you to create something new. It’s what I like to call a self-care mindset. This month in my Successful Women’s Academy, our theme is self-care. I use a two-part - [Don't Be A Maximizer](https://valorieburton.com/dont-be-a-maximizer/) - Have you ever had too many choices and as a result you don’t make a decision at all? That’s called maximizing and is the seventh habit from Successful Women Think Differently. In celebration of the 10-year anniversary of Successful Women Think Differently, we are walking through the nine habits to make you happier, healthier, and more resilient. - [Don't Go It Alone](https://valorieburton.com/dont-go-it-alone/) - Some of the most successful people collaborate, communicate, and celebrate with others. We must be able to reach out to others if we want to be resilient. That’s why the best advice for success is don’t go it alone. In celebration of the 10-year anniversary of Successful Women Think Differently, we are walking through the nine habits - [Give Yourself the Gift of Wisdom](https://valorieburton.com/give-yourself-the-gift-of-wisdom/) - Merry Christmas! I hope you are enjoying a beautiful Christmas day. Whether it’s just you, or you’re with family or friends, this is always just a beautiful time to get quiet and savor the gift of God’s love. In the midst of your gift-giving and receiving, I want you to think about a gift you - [Don’t Set Resolutions, Set Growth Goals](https://valorieburton.com/dont-set-resolutions-set-growth-goals/) - Happy New Year! If you’re like most of us, you have some hopes for 2023. The New Year is a reset of sorts, a chance to reflect on your vision and set your intentions for the year to come. What are you hoping to achieve this year? Perhaps a health goal, a financial milestone, and learning to - [If You Want to Get It Right, You Must Write It Down](https://valorieburton.com/if-you-want-to-get-it-right-you-must-write-it-down/) - What is the goal or obstacle currently keeping you up at night, and how are you currently approaching it? I’ll give you a moment. Now, when was the last time you wrote it down? Not ‘thought about it,’ but actually whipped out a ballpoint pen and scribbled everything on a piece of paper? …If you - [What is the wise thing to do?](https://valorieburton.com/what-is-the-wise-thing-to-do/) - There is a question that can ground you in knowing what the right next step is when you’re trying to make a decision. This is the fifth of a six-part video series on coaching yourself with the right questions. I’ve been getting questions from some of you, and this week I was asked: “I’m trying - [Purpose Fuels Motivation](https://valorieburton.com/purpose-fuels-motivation/) - If you’ve ever found yourself setting a goal, getting excited about the goal, and then losing steam, you are definitely not alone. One of the most common questions I get inside of my SWA membership is about how to create consistency, so I want to share a simple key to doing that. Whether you’re trying - [Create Your NOT To-Do List](https://valorieburton.com/create-your-not-to-do-list/) - If your to-do list sometimes feels out of control, you’re not alone. I love to use a simple strategy to keep my to-do list narrowed down and focused on the most critical tasks so that it’s not overwhelming. I arrange my list into four categories… do it, delay it, delegate it, or delete it. Over - [Create Your You-Do List](https://valorieburton.com/create-your-you-do-list/) - Is it time to tame your to-do list? This is the second of a three-part series about how to tame your to-do list. When you get overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done, here is a trick to tame your to-do list. Within your list of things to do, there are some things you - [Time Your To-Do List](https://valorieburton.com/time-your-to-do-list/) - Do you know exactly how much time it will actually take you to get everything done on your to-do list? If you’re like most people, the answer is “no,” but there’s a simple solution to taming your to-do list when it feels overwhelming, especially if you’re a time optimist. Time optimists tend to underestimate how - [Decide How You Want to Show Up](https://valorieburton.com/decide-how-you-want-to-show-up/) - We’ve all had those moments when we’ve shown up to a place or situation in a way that’s different than we wanted to. There’s nothing we can do about the past, but we can be more intentional about how we show up moving forward. Whether it’s an opportunity, a difficult conversation with someone that tends - [This is How Rest Can Make You More Productive](https://valorieburton.com/this-is-how-rest-can-make-you-more-productive/) - If you want to be more productive, there’s an important yet counterintuitive thing you must do: Rest. Recently I was telling a friend about how much I had going on and how I needed to accomplish so much and execute at a high level. Their advice to me? Rest and relax more. It may sound - [Why You Should Have a Temperament to Experiment](https://valorieburton.com/why-you-should-have-a-temperament-to-experiment/) - ​​Have you ever declared that you were going to start a new goal or habit only to shortly thereafter drop off and get frustrated? I think we've all experienced that at some point. That's why I always encourage people to develop a temperament to experiment. All that means is that you don't have to fully - [Make Yourself a Priority](https://valorieburton.com/make-yourself-a-priority/) - Have you ever decided to do something for yourself - take a day off, leave the dishes in the sink and take a nap, say no to a request so you can do something that brings you joy - only to end up feeling guilty? A year ago, I had the opportunity to serve as - [Patience in the Waiting](https://valorieburton.com/patience-in-the-waiting/) - Have you ever felt so ready for the next chapter of your life, but found yourself stuck in the waiting? Maybe you’re ready for the next level in an important relationship, your finances, or your career, but feel stalled and frustrated because you haven’t seen the success for which you’ve been preparing. We have lived - [Activate Your Goals](https://valorieburton.com/14137-2/) - Procrastination and perfectionism go hand in hand as they are rooted in the same problem: fear. From the outside looking in, procrastination may simply look like hesitation, but a closer look will reveal that most of the time we wait to get started on something for the fear that we don’t have all the answers - [Cultivate Your Positive Emotions](https://valorieburton.com/cultivate-your-positive-emotions/) - No matter how wonderful your personal life is right now, if you turn on the news, you’re bound to feel your stress level rise. After-effects of the pandemic. Racial unrest. Economic uncertainty. Political turmoil. The negatives have piled up. And that means you need to be super intentional about looking for the positives. Otherwise, you - [Reset Your Expectations](https://valorieburton.com/reset-your-expectations/) - Although this video was recorded in March of 2020, the message still applies today. Even when we aren’t dealing with a global pandemic, we will still encounter unexpected changes and a shifting of our normal in this life. Sudden changes can leave you feeling scattered and disoriented. Your thoughts can race to the future or - [How To Do Hard Things](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-do-hard-things/) - I bet there are some hard things you’re trying to do right now. Whether it’s dealing with the effects of the turmoil and uncertainty in our world, a hard conversation you need to have, or something going on at work, in a relationship, or with your health, all of us at times have to do - [Be Honest With Yourself](https://valorieburton.com/be-honest-with-yourself/) - I have a question for you… How honest are you with yourself? Learning to ask yourself powerful questions can get you unstuck and transform your life, but answering those questions honestly is equally important. Think about it, even if you ask yourself questions such as … What do I really want? What am I afraid - [Discover and Defeat your Core Fears](https://valorieburton.com/discover-and-defeat-your-core-fears/) - We all have fears, but fear doesn’t get to determine our actions. The first step to moving past your fear is to identify it. In my research, I’ve found four core fears that hold us back. Let’s identify yours. Fear of Failure When you’re not making progress towards your goals, you can get paralyzed and - [Decide your definition of success](https://valorieburton.com/decide-your-definition-of-success/) - [Do this BEFORE you set a goal](https://valorieburton.com/do-this-before-you-set-a-goal/) - If you want to stick with a goal until you reach the end of it, there’s one question you must be able to answer BEFORE you set the goal. This is the third in a six-part series on coaching yourself with the right questions. I’ve been getting questions from some of you, and this week - [Do this instead of beating yourself up](https://valorieburton.com/do-this-instead-of-beating-yourself-up/) - Do you tend to beat yourself up when you make a mistake or don’t get things just right? This is the fourth of a six-part video series on coaching yourself with the right questions. I’ve been getting questions from some of you, and this week I was asked: “I’m pretty hard on myself. In many - [What will you wish you had done?](https://valorieburton.com/what-will-you-wish-you-had-done/) - There's a strategy I love that always helps make the right choices in any given situation. This idea gives you the benefit of stepping into your future self and using hindsight to look back and ask a very simple question. This is actually the last in a six-part coaching series on how to coach yourself - [How to Reclaim Your Focus](https://valorieburton.com/how-to-reclaim-your-focus/) - I am finishing up a “best of” series in my weekly newsletters; I have pulled some of my favorite videos from the past for you to see here. Watch the video now to learn why this is one of my favorites! As human beings, you and I are wired to want and crave information…it’s - [5 Key Traits of Resilient People](https://valorieburton.com/5-key-traits-of-resilient-people/) -  Research shows that resilient people think differently. 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Begin writing first book three weeks later and self-publish it a few months later by borrowing $6,000 from - [2000](https://valorieburton.com/timeline_slider_post/11208/) - Random House buys self-published book! Releases it with the same title a year later. - [2003](https://valorieburton.com/timeline_slider_post/2003/) - Get married. Move to Prince Georges County, Maryland. Land book deal and write my second book, Listen to Your Life. - [1980](https://valorieburton.com/timeline_slider_post/1980/) - We moved to Frankfurt, West Germany. This is my fourth grade pic at Rhein Main Air Base Elementary. - [1976](https://valorieburton.com/timeline_slider_post/1976-2/) - Mom said she wanted to “capture the era” in this pic. - [1991](https://valorieburton.com/timeline_slider_post/1991/) - After a tough year of academic probation, parents’ divorce, surgery and three hospital stays, I leave the Academy, doubting myself and not totally sure what’s next. 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