We’ve all had those moments when we’ve shown up to a place or situation in a way that’s different than we wanted to.  

There’s nothing we can do about the past, but we can be more intentional about how we show up moving forward.

Whether it’s an opportunity, a difficult conversation with someone that tends to push your buttons, or anything else, you can show up in a way that represents and reflects who you really are and who you really want to be. 

It starts with coaching yourself, meaning, you ask yourself the kinds of questions that will move you in the direction that you want to go.

The question I want you to ask in the face of your current opportunity or a dilemma that feels challenging to you is this:

“How do I want to show up in this situation?”

Stop and pause and ask that question. It automatically shifts you from where you are to where you want to be. Do you want to show up with more confidence? With generosity? With intellect? With kindness? Asking yourself this question will help you align your tone, words, and attitude with how you want to present yourself. 

Take a moment and think of the challenges and opportunities in front of you. Maybe it’s an interview, a meeting with a prospective client, a conversation with a child that’s been difficult, or a discussion with a friend. Whatever the situation, ask yourself how you want to show up and then do that.

If you’ve ever thought about developing coaching skills for your own resilience, as a leader or manager, or in running your business, check out our Coach Training Intensive! We’ve got one coming up soon, and we’d love to see you there! Get all the details at capinstitute.com. You can also check out my free How to Coach Yourself course at valorieburton.com

Coach Yourself:
Where do you have a challenging situation you need to show up to?
How do you want to show up in that situation?
What steps do you need to take to show up in that way?